IComLeavWe: October 2012

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The October list is now closed.  Add yourself to the November list starting on 10/27.
  
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, life)
3. IUI to Roux-en-Y (pregnant after WLS)
4. Growing Griswolds (IVF, infertility, hope)
5. Team Harries Beats Infertility (waiting, peace, hope)
6. My Life is About the Journey (pregnancy, rpl, anxiety)
7. The 2 Week Wait (infertility, humor, life)
8. Patience is Not My Virtue (ttc, gluten-free, infertility)
9. Feeling Beachie (life, family, humor)
10. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (pg w donated embryos, pg @ 46, parenting)
11. Ready For My Bundle (ivf, pregnant?, family)
12. My Violet Thoughts (mfi, parenting, exhausted)
13. My Bum Ovaries (premature ovarian failure)
14. Somewhere In The Middle (infertility, DIA, waiting)
15. for all the things we hope for (endometriosis, infertility, doula-ing)
16. More Salt (ttc#1, 2ww, miscarriage)
17. The Buggy List (bucketlist, humor, ttc)
18. Breathe Gently (pregnancy, IVF, PCOS)
19. Dancing My Way Through Life, Loss, and Books (loss/ttcal, books, ballroom dance)
20. Waiting for Baby (vasectomy reversal, IUI, PCOS)
21. I’m Just Ducky, Thanks (gestational surrogacy, fear)
22. Unexplained Rantings (infertility, adoption, rpl)
23. Thought Provoking Moments (IVF, Loss, Life)
24. Worth The Wait (ivf#1, 2ww, unexplained)
25. An Engineer Becomes a Mom (adoption, parenting, infertility)
26. Writing for Life (ivf, expat life, uk)
27. (Still) Trying to Conceive (hope, unexplained, break)
28. Baby-Making Merry-go-Round (pre-term labor, hospital bed rest, IVF)
29. Stupid Stork (infertility, ivf, shenanigans)
30. Survive and Thrive (baby after infertility)
31. The Infertility Voice (IVF, donor egg, hopefully pg)
32. Our Journey Through This Lovely Life (ttc adventures life)
33. What A Day For A Daydream (post FET #1, endometriosis, unexplained IF)
34. The Elusive Second Line (RPL, miscarriage, TTC #1)
35. Comatised (cancer, survival, love)
36. Rasta Less Traveled (surrogacy in India, special needs child, twins)
37. Omeletta (food, life, sarcasm)
38. Life Of An Army Wife (infertility army crafting)
39. Wandering Wonderment (family, politics, local news)
40. A Blanket 2 Keep (pregnancy after IF, life)
41. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
42. Serenity Now (infertility, parenting, cycling for #2)
43. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (life after infertility)
44. The Childless Mom (ivf-icsi-fet, humor, pregnancy #1)
45. Follow Every Rainbow (unexplained infertility, UK)
46. Lil Family Blog (pregnancy, lesbian, parenting)
47. My (In)fertile Confessions (treating pcos naturally, clean eating, twins)
48. Among the Blossoms (pregnancy after infertility)
49. The Question Now Becomes… (donor insemination, mfi, marriage)
50. IVF Over 40 (advanced maternal age, chromosomal testing, gestational surrogate)
51. Pollination Chronicles (IVF abroad, ectopic, FET for baby#2)
52. This Life of Mine (parenting, loss, preterm labour)
53. Weathering Storms (transracial adoption, parenting, life)
54. From Here to Motherhood (infertility, ttc#1, relationship)
55. Infertility Unexplained (IVF, CCS, infertility)
56. Bébé Suisse (pregnancy after loss, switzerland)
57. The Days of Our Lives (new parent, parenting after losses, faith)
58. R. Sativus (adoption, parenting, infidelity)
59. Life is Simple, It’s Just Not Easy (preemies, twins, life)
60. Sillyness Abounds (parenting after adoption)
61. If You Don’t Stand For Something (MFI, geekiness, general life ramblings)
62. Our W Life (pregnancy after loss)
63. The Closet Infertile (IVF, infertility, staying sane)
64. MRKH Musings (infertility, IVF surrogacy)
65. Who Is This Fertile Myrtle (secondary infertility ivfs failed)
66. One day at a time (adoption, life, school)
67. Tales of A Cautious Optimist (ivf, mfi, infertility)
68. Comprised Fertility (reproductive immunology, working with kids, TTC #1)
69. Believing in June (TTC #2, parenting, infertility)
70. Journey To The Finish Line (pregnant after IVF, twins, humor)
71. Hapa Hopes (IVF#3?, life, decisions)
72. Our Adventures through Infertility (IVF, infertility, life)
73. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, life)
74. The October list is now closed.  Add yourself to the November list starting on 10/27.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is orange, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.