IComLeavWe: May 2013

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form after adding the icon below: the May list is now closed.  The June list will open on 5/27.
  
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Where the bleep is our stork (ttc #1, pcos, infertility)
3. One step at a time (baby after infertility)
4. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
5. Unconceivably Blessed (infertility, TTC, life)
6. Thought Provoking Moments (IVF, loss & pregnancy, life lessons)
7. Life of an Army Wife (donor eggs, army wife)
8. The 2 Week Wait (infertility, humor, ttc)
9. When is it my turn? (iui unexplained hopeful)
10. Our Little Family (infertility, diet, life)
11. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (adult adoptee, parenting 2 thru ART, infertility)
12. Waiting for Baby (adoption, IUI, PCOS)
13. Who Shot Down My Stork? (iui, unexplained IF, humor)
14. Breathe Gently (new-mum, IVF, PCOS)
15. Two Adults, One Child (loss, family, moving on)
16. Team Harries Beats Infertility (faith, acupuncture, holistic)
17. Baby On Mind (embryo adoption, infertility, 40+)
18. From Gutter to Stars (infertility, adoption, therapist)
19. My journey through infertility, pregnancy & loss (infertility, loss, grief)
20. On Fecund Thought (miscarriage, grief, mindfulness)
21. Always My 3 Boys (neonatal loss parenting )
22. A Little Blog About the Big Infertility (RPL, infertility, feeling lost)
23. Just A Box of Rain (parenting post-IF, adoption,balance)
24. Ready For My Bundle (pregnant/parenting after ivf, family, smc)
25. In My Garden Grow (IVF, infertility, loss)
26. The Egg Timer Is About To Ring (infertility, older mom, ttc)
27. Waiting, Wishing, Hoping (pregnancy, infertility, parenting)
28. Riding the Roller Coaster- Trying for our Together Baby (secondary infertility, loss, depression)
29. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
30. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
31. The Great Big IF (egg donor, parenting, IVF)
32. How I Spend My Dash (twins, parenting, life)
33. Punch Today In The Face (pcos, preg after loss, 3rd due in june)
34. Beloved burnt toast (IVF, loss, hope)
35. Rainbow Making 101 (twins, IVF, miscarriage)
36. Comatised (love, life, cancer)
37. Infertile Chemist (infertility, IUI, chemistry)
38. Our Journey Through This Lovely Life (ttc iui adventures)
39. Life is Simple, It’s Just Not Easy (twins, after IF, life)
40. Frozen OJ (endo, health, embryo donation)
41. Our journey to fill the nest (infertility, relationships, IVF)
42. Baby Baby…Please! (trying to conceive)
43. A Life of Choice (divorce, life, infertile)
44. My Journey to Motherhood (break, photography, love)
45. One uponce a time, things were a little wonky (infertility, life, treatments)
46. Recipes for Lemons (ivf, newly pregnant, loss)
47. Mommy Loves Martinis (twins, humor, two-mommy family)
48. An Engineer Becomes a Mom (adoption, infertility, rants)
49. The Barreness (art, infertility, reflection)
50. Jenn & Tommy: Life’s A Bitch (decisions, infertility, marriage)
51. Sweet Dreams are Made of This (adoption, life)
52. The Write Mama (advocate for IVF coverage, motherhood, life)
53. From IF to When (infertility, adoption, family)
54. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (parenting after IF/RPL, diabetes, life)
55. Mine to Command (IUI, DYI, sports)
56. Old Lady and No Baby (fet, donor eggs, softball)
57. Wonder Woman’s Infertility: The Infertility Battle of Two Non-Superheroes (god feelings reactions)
58. InDueTime (life, infertility, loss)
59. The May list is now closed.  The June list will open on 5/27

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is yellow, the next month it will be purple, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

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