#MicroblogMondays 9: Seance

by Mel

37 comments

1 Valery Valentina { 10.27.14 at 5:54 am }

Oh Mel, you have me all teary eyed at work…. I would so very much like to tell my late cousin about my infertility, our medical adventures and our surviving DE baby. Visiting a grave with a baby is just not the same as being there alone to have a ‘conversation’.

2 Karen (River Run Dry) { 10.27.14 at 6:10 am }

Right now, I can easily name people I’d want to contact beyond the grave. My cousin. My grandfather. My aunt.

All three of these people died suddenly, before I could tell them just how much I loved them and how much they meant to me. I struggled for many years with the openness of their death, the fact I never got to say goodbye.

I would love to do that and get some bit of closure.

3 Turia { 10.27.14 at 6:54 am }

My maternal grandfather, my paternal grandmother, and Q.’s father. My grandmother died before I was born, my grandfather died in 2002, and Q’s father died in 2003. I’d love for them all to know that Q. and I are happy and healthy and that we have E.

I’m not good with small talk/interviewing people, so if I started calling up historical figures (Scipio Africanus, my favourite Roman would be an obvious one) I think I’d just get tongue-tied.

4 Vee { 10.27.14 at 6:58 am }

I didn’t know that about Houdini. I would definitely call Max, My Mum and my Grandmother. I have so much to say and so many questions to ask them. I would treasure just being in there presence more than anything even if we just sat quietly and hugged.

I finally microblogged! Hooray 🙂 Thank you Mel x

5 Lisa { 10.27.14 at 7:17 am }

For the longest time I just wanted to speak to the spirits of the little ones I miscarried, to know they were okay, maybe to absolve myself of the guilt I felt for losing them. Now, I don’t think I want to know. Perhaps I’ve gained more respect for mystery in the world. Or maybe I feel ignorance is just safer.

6 JustHeather { 10.27.14 at 7:26 am }

I would love to talk to my mom. In fact, I’ve actually thought of going to a medium as a friend of mine has gone many times and received so much feed back. One time she even got a long lost recipe from her grandmother! As for other people to contact, I would like to talk to my mom’s mom and maybe my dad’s mom, although I did get some time with her before she died. It was known.

7 Shail { 10.27.14 at 7:29 am }

That’s very interesting about Houdini. I did not know. If I could talk to someone I’d call forth P.G. Wodehouse. I bet he’d be interesting to talk to 🙂

8 Middle Girl { 10.27.14 at 8:02 am }

My mother. And my two grandmothers. These women had stories locked inside them that were begging to be set free.

9 m. { 10.27.14 at 8:21 am }

My maternal grandfather – because I miss him terribly. And my two great-grandmothers for exactly the same reason as Middle Girl.

10 Persnickety { 10.27.14 at 8:35 am }

I don’t know that I would want to talk to anyone. I like the idea of time travel, and I love to read historical letters,must I don’t think I want to call any spirits…

11 Corinne Rodrigues { 10.27.14 at 8:42 am }

Ah! Now I must find out more about Houdini and Bess, Melissa.

I’d like to meet with my grandfather and ask him a lot of questions about the history of our ancestral village. He passed away before I got interested in its history!

12 Mina { 10.27.14 at 9:11 am }

I may be going against the current here, but I have never been tempted to try to reach beyond the realm of living. I presume I have not experienced the grief of loss or the intense curiosity that makes one want to contact the dead. I believe that the dead should be left alone, even if they passed away before their time, wilingly or not, leaving scores unsettled behind, leaving loved ones behind. They say that my sign, Scorpio, is the most attracted to the occult side of all signs, but perhaps I am the exception to that rule.

I am not sure I will feel the same if God forbid, something happens and my husband is taken from me sooner than normally expected (after a fulfilled life, and when we are both more or less ready for it). Perhaps the love that continues to grow between us will make his absence hurt, enough for me to renounce entirely this belief I hold right now, and will make me attempt everything and anything to talk to him one more time. I am not even thinking about the case of losing one child, that is something I refuse to do.

13 No Baby Ruth { 10.27.14 at 9:16 am }

My gut reaction is no thank you. I’d rather not call up any spirits. I miss two of my grandparents very much and they’ve each served as namesakes for my two kids, so I guess I’d love for them to know how important they were to me, but I think they knew that when it mattered…

Maybe since you suggested people you never got to meet I’d choose my paternal grandfather. He died before any of his grandkids were born. My mom says he and my father were a lot alike – they made okay dads but would’ve been phenomenal grandfathers. So I’d like to meet him, even if only to understand my own father better.

Or perhaps, to end on a lighter note, I’d call up Freddie Mercury so he could rock out some amazing songs for me; he’s one of the few musicians I wish I could have seen in concert.

14 Usha Pisharody { 10.27.14 at 9:33 am }

First of all, thank you for this initiative of Microblogging on Mondays 🙂 Indeed it has helped to get my blog back, and introduce, perhaps, a much needed sense of discipline to blogging! Thanks also to Shail, for having directed me thisaway 🙂

I think I’d rather like to leave those who’ve gone away there – not for any other reason, other than to just wish them peace! Some things, I feel are better, moving on… even if it feels rudderless! That said, I love the theme you’ve chosen for the day, because it is all about communicating and keeping in touch, with your heart, and healing too!
Thank you again, Mel!

15 obsessivemom { 10.27.14 at 9:46 am }

Hadn’t heard of Houdini and Bess. Umm… not sure there’s anyone I’d really like to call. The whole spirit thing scares me a bit.

16 Vidya Sury { 10.27.14 at 9:58 am }

A seance is a very exciting experience. I’ve read about Houdini and Bess, thanks to my son – when he first learned the word “houdini”.
I’d love a seance with my Mom, My GrandMom and a friend of mine who passed away too early, when we were 17, Mel.

Loving MicroblogMondays!

17 earthandink { 10.27.14 at 10:26 am }

Normally, I would have a list. But after everything that’s gone on in my life lately, there’s only one person.

18 lostintranslation { 10.27.14 at 10:37 am }

Although the idea of a seance doesn’t appeal to me at all, I would love to get some guidance from my mom on how to handle the mess that’s currently between me and my dad/his new wife (or actually it might be better if my dad did the seance and my mom could tell him to stop the nonsense…)

19 Isabelle { 10.27.14 at 10:58 am }

I’d say my aunt who passed away too young. She loved me so much and would really like to be part of my life now that I am married. She would be someone that I’d share about my fertility struggles.

20 SuzannaCatherine { 10.27.14 at 11:01 am }

My brother, who took his own life in 2001. He is missed so much and we have so many questions. My maternal great great great great grandmother who lived from 1835 to 1928. I would love to know about her life, how she survived during the Civil War, and all the changes she must have seen during her long lifetime. What stories she could tell!
I’d also like to talk with my paternal grandfather because I never really knew him as he lived very far from our family and died in 1972. In all honesty, I don’t believe it is possible to contact those who have “gone before” but if I could, these are the three I would choose.

21 Sharon { 10.27.14 at 12:51 pm }

I would love to be able to talk to either of my grandfathers, whom I never met, since they died before I was born. From all I have heard of them from my grandmothers and from my parents, I think I would have really loved them (and vice versa), and I’m sorry I never knew them.

I knew my grandmothers well and although I miss them both, I feel I had the chance to say all I needed to say to them while they were still living.

22 Created Family { 10.27.14 at 1:49 pm }

That’s very interesting about Houdini and his wife. I’ll have to do some reading on them!
I would love to talk with my dad again. He was killed by a drunk driver five years ago. I’m not sure that there’s anyone else I have a lingering desire to connect with.

23 Lori Lavender Luz { 10.27.14 at 1:56 pm }

I’d call up my grandparents and my childhood dogs.

There are numerous people living now that I’d want to rouse. And, of course, I’d be on call to be roused for them, too!

24 Amber { 10.27.14 at 1:59 pm }

I would love to tell my Grandpa about my babies. As the oldest grandchild, we had a special relationship and he wanted so badly for us to have children. He died before we ever got pregnant.

25 Laurel Regan { 10.27.14 at 7:26 pm }

To be honest, the idea of a seance kind of creeps me out! I’m a little oversensitive when it comes to that sort of thing, so I think I’ll stick with talking to the living. 🙂

26 Stephanie (Travelcraft Journal) { 10.27.14 at 8:18 pm }

Sometimes I still have the urge to call my grandma. And then it feels weird not to, like when you leave the house and you know you’ve forgotten something. There’s a lot I wish I could chat with her about.

27 Justine { 10.27.14 at 9:14 pm }

I think I’d call my father back. There’s a lot I never got to ask him. I don’t know about the others.

28 D { 10.28.14 at 7:33 am }

Definitely my Dad would be #1, my Grandma #2, and my living Grandma’s best friend (who died 3 years ago) as #3. My living Grandma is always talking about how she is so lonely now that most of her friends and family members have died off so I know that would make her so happy.

29 Vinitha { 10.28.14 at 7:41 am }

My dad, There are so many things I want to clear. I couldn’t say I love you one last time.

30 Heather { 10.28.14 at 9:28 am }

My mom, for obvious reasons.
The other two? I don’t know. I mean I’m really sitting here wondering who else.

31 tigger62077 { 10.28.14 at 9:48 am }

The only one I can think of is my mother. Can I call her back three times? There is so much I want to ask her, tell her, show her. We are creeping up on 6 years, so she’s very much on my mind right now.

32 Jamie { 10.28.14 at 12:08 pm }

My maternal grandmother, my great uncle c and my fiancé’s father. I miss my grandma and uncle c like crazy. My grandma died when I was a child and my uncle when I was in my 20’s. It would be lovely to talk to them. I never had the opportunity to meet my fiancé’s father, and I think there could be a lot to learn by having a conversation with him.

33 Cynthia Samuels { 10.28.14 at 12:10 pm }

What a wise piece! It seems to me that the older I get (and I’m moving along….) the more I regret the questions I didn’t ask, the conversations I meant to have, and the ones time just didn’t permit. I recently wrote about my parents, http://www.cynthiasamuels.com/blog/2014/10/06/being-a-grandmother-a-mothere-a-daughter-and-sad/ as you know, and my sadness at all the “grandparent things” I never got to ask about and share with them. I think they’re the ones I’d most like to still be able to share things with. Not too original, but all of us who feel this way are clearly blessed by what we had when they were around.

34 a { 10.28.14 at 12:44 pm }

My mom, my dad, and my aunt (my dad’s oldest sister who was the keeper of all the family information). But I’d want my dad and my aunt to meet my daughter – they would have loved her so much.

35 A. { 10.28.14 at 3:52 pm }

Definitely my dad – there’s some unfinished business there.

36 Tiara { 10.28.14 at 7:28 pm }

Oh what I would give to speak to my dad again. Not a day goes by that I don’t wish that. I’d also love to talk to his mom. I never got to meet her but she sounded like a really neat lady. Last, I’d like to talk to my aunt who passed this winter. I’d loved to be reassured by her that I did all the right things for her in her last days. If only…

37 MissingNoah { 10.28.14 at 8:46 pm }

My son Noah, all of my early losses, and the babies my grandmother lost.