392nd Friday Blog Roundup

So.

Now I’m really late with this.  But I consider it all Lori’s fault because she’s a distraction.  Watch out if you swing by her blog because she will (1) turn you all healthy and then (2) give you mad coping skills and then (3) teach you something interesting.  And that will use up the hour you intended to write the Roundup.  Oh, though while you’re at her blog, you may want to wish her a happy fifth blogoversary and tell her about your own blogosphere kismet.

And now that I’ve vented that out of my head, I can return to watching this incredible video someone made of all of MCA’s first lines:

The first time I watched it, I was sort of grooving along. (My seat dancing had to keep switching tempo with each new line. It was hard. I feel like I deserve some type of recognition for my seat dancing skills.) And then at the end, when it faded out, it felt like Sirius falling back through the curtain in the fifth Harry Potter book. Where you want to grab the person and drag them back, and know full well that you can’t. Josh had a similar reaction except it was this desire to slow time once it hit Hot Sauce Committee Part Two and he realized that it would soon be over. There would be no future MCA-laden albums.

As much as I love Hot Sauce Committee, my heart is with Ill Communication.  It reminds me of college.  It feels like being in college when I listen to it.  We used to call my friend Ma Bell due to that album, and hearing it in this montage made me wish I had his phone number still; could grab coffee with him while we did our homework.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week as well as the week before.  In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• “Please Ignore; or Infertility Revisited” (Park Slope Promised Land)
• “Sometimes You Love People Not Because, But Anyway” (Nuts in May)
• “In the Closet” (The Road Less Travelled)
• “Heal” (Searching for Our Silver Lining)
• “My Week of NIAW on FB” (Living Our Life in Cycles)
• “Infertility, Despair, Tarot Cards and Acceptance” (Fertility Doll)
• “The New It Girls” (Silent Sorority)
• “The Oleander & the Groves” (Bloodsigns)

Okay, now my choices this week.

Where Love and Chaos Reign has a post about stopping treatments.  She points out, “The thing is, there’s not much out there that talks about stopping treatments when you already have kids. There are blogs about living child-free, but most of the secondary infertility blogs at some point become pregnancy blogs again.”  Even if it hasn’t happened yet, they are still in an active state of fertility treatments, adoption or third party reproduction; even if they are currently in a pause or wait.  But few who write about making the choice to close the door on family building.  I both love the post and hope that others who are in a similar situation and seeking support will find each other and start to write more about this.

Birch and Maple has a post broken up by musical interludes about moving out of the world of infertility for her own sanity, as well as how she views herself.  Where this view of herself stems.  She admits: “So anyway, this week has been bad. I am drab, growing older. I find myself wanting to wear black all the time, a statement of intent, the declaration of feeling, the ease with which I don’t have to worry about trying to look decent. Alas, I do not have enough of it in my wardrobe.”  She describes her post as emo; I describe it as bittersweet.

And lastly, Single Infertile Female has a post about her friend’s newborn child that… well… let’s just say that it hit really close to home for me.  It probably will for you too.  She is holding him and writes, “I found myself whispering in his little ear ‘I really need to get one just like you…’ I caught Lindsey’s eye directly after saying it, having briefly forgotten she was even there while in my blissed out baby haze. And for the first time since he was born… I found myself fighting back the tears.”  It is the perfect post for explaining how someone can be unbelievably happy for another person while being simultaneously sad for themselves; in case you ever needed to explain this phenomenon to a good friend.

The roundup to the Roundup: Wish Lori a happy blogoversary and listen to MCA’s first lines.  And lots of great posts to read.  So what did you find this week?  Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between May 4th and May 11th) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week?  Read the original open thread post here.