#Microblog Monday 224: Whiny Wine
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Here’s a little “what would you do” situation: Josh and I were having dinner with two friends last week in a quiet restaurant. There were only two tables filled in the restaurant — our table and the one behind us. I was sitting with my back to the other table, which contained two women.
One woman lost control (I have no clue what happened because my back was to them) of her wine glass, tossing the contents five feet in the air to land squarely on my coat, sweater, hair, and the floor. Josh and I tried to clean up my coat (which got the worst of the red wine) while our friends went to get the waiter to help with the clean-up. The women said nothing.
The one who threw the wine scrolled through her phone, but they literally didn’t interact with us. They watched us trying to get the wine out of my coat, but didn’t apologize or offer to help or… do anything. Again, we were the only two tables in the restaurant, and we were at the table next to them. There is zero chance that they didn’t notice everything happening.
I didn’t confront them because it was really bizarre. I guess I figured that it wasn’t worth it if their instinct wasn’t to apologize or help. But afterwards, I wondered why I didn’t. Would you have said something?
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18 comments
Good grief! I can’t believe they didn’t even apologise. Would I have said something? I don’t know. I might have here. I probably wouldn’t in the US. but I know there’d have been a lot of passive-aggressive muttering!
I have to say, my first reaction would have been a very loud “WTF?” with turning and staring in anticipation of an explanation. And if one wasn’t forthcoming, I would likely have approached and requested contact information so I could send my cleaning/replacement bill. No response at all? That is bizarre.
Whaaaaaat?! I really cannot imagine doing that and saying nothing – I would be SO embarrassed if I spilled red wine on someone, apologizing and offering to pay for dry cleaning. That’s absolutely awful that they said nothing at all!
As far as confronting them…hmmm. I’d like to think that I might have openly said something, but more likely, would have passive-aggressively muttered in their general direction for awhile.
That is ridiculous but I would have done what you did – been confused and said nothing. It is so bizarre that they didn’t even acknowledge what happened.
Like you, I probably wouldn’t have said anything — why bother? — but it’s hard to believe that someone would say and do nothing in those circumstances. What an a$$hole.
I would have probably said nothing too out of confusion. But it’s odd they just ignored it. Maybe they were so mortified they couldn’t speak but still…..this sounds like going to the extreme to avoid human contact. Hope your clothes will be ok.
It’s realky not surprising though. I have seen someone practically get beat up while people stared ahead like nothing is going on. Most people do not like confrontation in real life.
That sounds awful! I’m sorry you experienced that. I would have exclaimed loudly, then looked at them for an explanation. If none was forthcoming, I think I would have said, “Are you aware you just spilled wine all over me?” But I do not tend to avoid conflict, when sometimes I should. You have to pick your battles. But I think I would have been so shocked, I would have said something in this case.
That is soooo weird. I would like to think I’d be assertive about someone drenching me in red wine, but in that situation, I think I’m more likely to freeze. Like, what do you do when someone is blatantly ignoring you? I’m sorry that happened to you, what a crappy way to have dinner….
That is SO bizarre. I can’t believe they completely ignored you like that. (And I am dying to know just what happened & how that wine came to fly from their table over to yours!) I hate confrontation (although I’m sure dh would have said something if I didn’t!) but passive-aggressive, I can totally do. 😉 I can see myself going over to that table & sweetly 😉 saying something like “Is everything all right over here? How on earth did that happen? Goodness, what a sad waste of wine…” 😉
Whoa! That’s crazy! I can’t fathom why they wouldn’t at least apologize. I don’t think I would’ve known what to say either.
Um, that’s truly bizarre. I can understand why you didn’t say anything, you probably wondered if you’d been plopped in the middle of a Twilight Zone or something! I can’t believe they would just ignore the whole thing and not even apologize or offer to compensate you in some way, even if it’s just paying for your drink or part of your dinner. I would be so horribly embarrassed if I was the one whose wine went flying, but for the love, I would NEVER not go see if you (and your coat) were okay! Or not acknowledge it! I’m so sorry, that’s just beyond crappy. Out for a lovely evening and you get a wine shower with no apology or acknowledgement that it happened. Grrr.
I may have done what you did in actuality.
But in my head, I ask her. Wow. How did you do that? And where should I send the cleaning bill?
Sheesh! So weird.
Omygosh! Something similar happened to hubby and me many moons ago. We said something. Definitely.
whoa, that is unbelievable! you would’ve 100% been justified in going over and saying something, but its also 100% understandable to stay away from the obviously not-normal person!
*Gasp* I cannot believe they didn’t even have the decency to apologize!! Completely ignoring the situation altogether is just strange. Obviously there was commotion and chaos, and being the only two tables seated and so close together…. just, bizarre. I don’t know what I would have done, but I typically have a hard time keeping my mouth shut so I probably would have said something.
Wow that is so rude! I think I might have said something like, “you might not have realised but your wine went all over my coat” and just waited to see what she said.
I’m so sorry this happened. The tossed wine is bad enough, but then to have both women act so aloof? I really am surprised the manager didn’t come out and ask both of them to leave.
Like so many above, I wouldn’t have had anything given the situation. But given that this is becoming common place, I’m starting to steel myself for confrontations. I literally had another one yesterday with a man who saw nothing wrong with hitting golf balls at the playground of an elementary school while children were playing less than 100 feet away (he was surprised that the police came, took his clubs and gave him a ticket because he didn’t see any issue). I guess my point is I would t have said anything, but I’m starting to think confrontation is a necessary evil.