814th Friday Blog Roundup
This week was terrible. I’m not sure there’s much more to say except to pass along the advice to never say something matters to you in 2020 such as, “Linus is the only thing getting me through the pandemic.” (Except he was.) Or “I cannot lose my pig.” (Because I will.) Or “My greatest joy right now is mornings with my pig. I show him animal videos and scratch his head. He curls up next to me while I read a book. He is my heart, covered in fur.” (Because it will hurt to encounter these sentences later on.)
It is hard to cry in a mask.
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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
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And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “We’re All in the Same Ocean” (My Path to Mommyhood)
- “My Aunt Called” (A Different Life)
- “Love & Eliza’s Library Wish List” (By the Brooke)
Okay, now my choices this week.
I found Stay at Home Meg substack because someone linked to it when talking about Chrissy Teigen’s loss. She writes about her miscarriage: “It was a work of loneliness. I didn’t get pregnant alone but I miscarried alone. Even with a supportive partner, even with emotional support, miscarriage like birth is a physically a solitary labor.” It’s a rallying cry for changing the way we speak about and support people through loss.
Project Progeny provides a little balance. She points out that we often come to our blogs to unload our hearts, making them a little heavier on one side than another. She balances things out by describing the good around her.
Lastly, A Half Baked Life tells a story that begins with texting pictures of cups of coffee, and how her friend makes her rethink things that she loves but never uses because they’re fragile. A coffee cup moves from being something bringing her joy to something bringing her pain, but it all loops back again. It was the perspective I needed to read this week.
The roundup to the Roundup: Losing a fur-covered friend sucks. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 2 – October 9) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.
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2020 is the worst.
I was thinking that crying in a mask would be OK – you’d have a handy tear absorber. Then I remembered that crying is usually accompanied by bubbling snot and the whole picture changed. I’m so sad for your family’s loss. (I used to have a friend who is sooo disgusted by mucous that that sentence would have sent her over the edge. So I got a bit of a smile out of it, anyway.)
I’m so sorry for your loss. Take good care.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear wonderful friend.
I’m so sorry about Linus! You had such a good companion and family member there. It must be heartbreaking. Big hugs all around.
I am so sorry about Linus. It is always heart-breaking to say goodbye to a beloved pet, and in the s**tshow that is 2020, I can imagine that it is even harder.
I am so, so sad for you, Mel. I wish I could make it hurt less. You were the one who taught me to “abide,” which has been the best thing to do when there was no really good thing to do, so that’s what I’m doing now, just holding you in my heart, being with you how I can. What you wrote were the truths of love. We can’t make them less true, even though they hurt when we re-read them. Take good care, my friend. <3
Awwww, Mel. I know all too well the pain of losing a beloved fur baby. It is one of the suckiest thing in the world to experience, and my heart breaks along with yours as you mourn Linus. I’ve been through this 4 times in my life and it doesn’t get any easier. It’s a trauma, and it needs to be acknowledged as such. Especially in the year 2020 that is a big old dumpster fire.
Sending so much love to you all. ❤️❤️❤️
p.s. there must be a disturbance in the force…this weekend sucked monkey balls for me, too.
Sending you and your family so much love.
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Sorry for your loss! And thank you so much to mention my blog here. Thank you!
I’m so, so sorry for this loss. I sat crying at the kitchen counter for a good half hour for you and for Linus, and I wish I could send a big squeezy hug to you.
I loved Mali’s post about grief and whether or stays with you: https://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.com/2020/10/does-grief-stay-with-you.html?m=1