841st Friday Blog Roundup
Early on in the pandemic, I decided that it would be a very good idea to cut my own hair. I should probably start by noting that I have no haircutting skills, and my hair is very long. I cut my hair dry; a little bit each day. I would pull it over my shoulder and trim the bottom of the curls. And little by little, my hair turned into a hot mess.
Every curl was a different length. And one side was much shorter than the other.
It has grown out and mostly looks even-ish if you don’t look too closely. Now you will because I told you that it’s uneven, but no one has commented on it in a long time.
This week, I had a dream that Josh cut my hair and he did an amazing job. We found a YouTube video that said the problem with curly hair is that if you cut it straight across—horizontally—it curls up at different lengths. If you cut it on the bias—diagonally—it magically becomes even. This made perfect sense in the dream world. Josh held the scissors at an angle and chopped away, and he gave me a perfectly even cut.
Josh doesn’t think it’s a good idea to test out the dreamworld ideas in the real world. But… I don’t know… I’m thinking otherwise.
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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments in order to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
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And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Relentless Renewal” (Grief Is the Word)
- “My 6th Survivor Anniversary” (Infertile Phoenix)
- “The One Where Emily Hates the Term ‘Oriental’” (Apron Strings for Emily)
- “Without Words” (Stirrup Queens)—thank you, Jess!
- “Does Pregnancy Loss/Infertility Belong on Your Resume?” (The Road Less Travelled)
Okay, now my choices this week.
The Road Less Travelled asks an interesting question: does infertility or loss belong on a resume? Should we have a major life events section to explain possible gaps or point out life skills we’ve picked up outside the workplace? Or, as Justine says in the comments, “It would be great to normalize gaps, without making people have to explain them … why not judge what’s on the resume, rather than what’s missing?” Go give her your thoughts.
The Next 15000 Days explains how writing a blog is paying it forward, giving knowledge to infertile people who come behind you. She writes: “I may not be a mother… but I love the idea of being a big sister to someone who is in the hardest times of accepting childless life.” A great piece on why you should post today. Hint hint hint.
Lastly, Finding a Different Path has a post about photo reminders. She muses on how seeing a photo can take you back into the feeling in the moment. But she also points out: “But it’s also wonderful how the sting is so much less now that I am farther away from those raw times. Thank goodness for the hard work of healing.” Yessssssss.
The roundup to the Roundup: I think Josh could cut my hair. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between April 2 – 9) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.
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I have cut everyone’s hair in my house. I also thought this would be a great idea to do on myself. My husband and daughters’ hairs all look pretty good. I watched some
YouTube tutorials and voila. Mine is ok from a distance. Don’t come too close. But I wear it pulled back a lot and in the summer, hats. So I’m trying really hard not to care. Because I’m committed to not going to get a professional cut until my kids are vaccinated and the numbers here go down. And with the way things are going, that’s going to be a very long time.
I actually cringed when I read that you cut your own hair. Like yours, my hair is naturally curly, and I would never cut it myself (beyond maybe trimming a split end off a single hair at a time) because it is temperamental and would not end well. You are a braver woman than I!
Ha ha I have cut my own hair 4x. It’s completely uneven and I’m sure a stylist would cringe. But it doesn’t look half bad. I’ve also cut my two daughters hair – – again not exactly even but whatever. We also got clippers from my husband. I cut his hair once and then he’s been doing it himself ever since I can’t imagine why😂
Thanks for the mention! Your hair is long & curly enough to be forgiving, I think. I have so far resisted temptation to cut my own. Right now, we’re just five weeks past our last haircuts… we usually go every six weeks, but we’re into another lockdown that’s now been extended into mid-May = 10 weeks on, which wouldn’t be TOO terribly bad (it was 17 weeks and 14 weeks between haircuts with the last two lockdowns). (Assuming the lockdown isn’t extended again and that we can get appointments right away when things do reopen… sigh…)
Thank you for including me! Also, as a fellow curly girl, I think they diagonal dream cut has some merit… I don’t ever have a cut that’s straight across, there’s a lot of snipping up and pulling hair up and cutting it in the air and then checking both sides occasionally. Curly hair cutting is a kind of sorcery, I think.
I want to nominate Mali’s post on inaccurate thinking and self-compassion, because it made me think and reflect. https://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.com/2021/04/inaccurate-thinking-and-self-compassion.html?m=1
I have not cut my own hair since I was 6. I have never cut my daughter’s hair. I have unevenly trimmed my husband’s neckline a few times, but he mostly just does it himself with a mirror. Cutting hair is not in my skill set. I think it’s good to realize one’s limitations. Also, dream ideas…don’t always pan out in reality. Good luck, Josh!