915th Friday Blog Roundup
I remembered and forgot Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day. Or maybe I remembered internally and didn’t remember externally is more accurate. I thought about lighting a candle, and then I didn’t light a candle. My corner of social media felt quiet about the day. I’m glad some people wrote about it.
Once upon a time, it was very important to me. I think it’s okay for people to change; for things that were once important to grow less important. I’m noting it because I surprised myself. If you had asked me ten years ago, I would have said that I would always light the candle.
Sending light and love out into the world for all who remembered this week.
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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.
Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.
As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.
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And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. To read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Childless, Alone? What’s Your Emergency Plan?” (Childless by Marriage)
- “The Unknown Life” (Stirrup Queens) — thanks, Jess!
Okay, now my choices this week.
It’s Inconceivable writes about baby loss awareness week. This made me weepy: “Wherever you are in the world, my candle will shine brightly for you, your baby or babies and for those children you held only within your hearts.” Thank you. I am glad there are people like Bamberlamb in the world.
Not a Wasted Word asks why everything is so hard right now. She’s not alone in this sentiment: “This fall has been a tough one. Everything feels really hard. At the very least, everything is taking a lot of time.” Maybe something is in the air because I think many people feel this, too.
Lastly, Lavender Luz has sad and happy news. A terrible loss. A new book is being born. Many projects are happening in the adoption world. Abide with her as she remembers her nephew.
The roundup to the Roundup: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 14 – October 21) and not the blog’s main URL. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.
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Thank you again for another blog roundup. I love these weekly posts of yours.
This week I really appreciated Childless By Marriage’s post. It’s not an infertility-based blog, but a lot of the posts still resonate with me. This week she wrote about liking her childless life. I love this post because I honestly didn’t think it was possible for me to ever like my childless life. And I do! https://childlessbymarriageblog.com/2022/10/19/its-okay-to-like-your-childless-life-as-it-is/
Re; Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month/Day — I was visiting my parents on the 15th. My time is not always my own while I’m there, and while one of my online groups held an online candlelighting event, it was just too difficult for me to attend & do likewise. But that doesn’t mean that I wasn’t thinking about it, and about my daughter (like I don’t every single day of the year…!).
An Unexpected Family Outing had a great post on her social media at the beginning of October… I thought it was so great, I actually dared to share it on FB (and I think I mentioned it in my blog as well). It certainly made me feel less guilty about not lighting a candle or doing more to promote this event. 😉 She pointed out that WE aren’t the ones who need a day or a month to gain a greater awareness about pregnancy loss issues, or to remember our babies. We’re pretty aware already. We we live this reality and think about our children every day, and will for the rest of our lives. Then she wrote about who this month is really for. Here’s the link to the FB post:
https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=645119010317109&set=a.227260498769631
Thank you so much for including my family and me in this remembering post, Mel. It is so meaningful and appreciated. Thanks, also, to those who came over and left 💚s for Dominic.
I get now why “say their name” somehow helps grieving people.
I also kind of overlooked Pregnancy and Infant Loss Day. I haven’t lit a candle for a long time, though I used to every year (and far more often than that). But of course, that doesn’t ever mean we forget, does it?
I liked Sue’s post that it is okay to like your childless life as it is. As I commented, the guilt of doing this can be hard to overcome at first, but it is worth persevering! https://childlessbymarriageblog.com/2022/10/19/its-okay-to-like-your-childless-life-as-it-is/ (Oops, I’ve only just realised IP nominated this too.)