Mari Andrews had a thought toward the middle of a newsletter that gave me pause. She was speaking about a podcast she found, and she said:

“Something that is both comforting and eerie to me is that you can’t choose your memories. You can ‘make memories,’ sure, but you really have no control over whether you end up remembering them or not.”

So you can do everything to make a moment memorable. You can plan out elaborate trips or plot out what you’re going to say or host an event, and in the end, there is nothing you can do to turn it into a memory for yourself, and even less you can do to turn it into a memory for someone else. I know my parents must have spent hours planning things for me, and then I forget all those things I did as a child, and I remember a random conversation with my mother while I watched her dry her hair.

It may help you to remember that whatever you do this upcoming holiday season, there is no guarantee anyone will remember any of it soon after the event. Maybe that takes some pressure off.

I get that this was (1) a joke that turned into a TikTok thing, and (2) is likely over by this point, and (3) led to many pineapples being damaged, but it’s kind of a brilliant way to get people into the store AND help them find one another in a no-pressure way.

If I ran the store, I would have a ribbon you could pick up as you entered the store, and you could tie it to your cart. And different colours would symbolize different things. Like blue would mean you’re looking for friendship, and it would let people know to strike up a conversation with you. Or red could mean you’re looking for a date, so if they see it on your cart, you’re available to be asked out. At the very least, you get your shopping accomplished. And at most, you walk away with someone’s number or a fun conversation.

So who is going to start this for real without damaging pineapples?

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The Wolvog introduced me to the game Balatro. It’s a roguelike card game, played on the surface like poker. But the various additional cards — jokers, planet cards, etc — increase the impact of the played hand. So you’re taking chances in multiple ways: the hand you play, the booster packs you purchase, the blinds you skip. Even the order of the jokers makes a difference. It became enormous fun once he taught me how to play and explained all of the cards. (I still need to text him when the game unlocks a new one to understand what it means.)

But the thing I love most of all is that when I play, it turns off all notifications and alerts. I don’t see news alerts come in. For thirty minutes or so, I can lose myself in the game and not think about the election or the state of the world. It’s hard to convince myself not to check the news when I can access other apps, but I love that this one gently tells me to shut it all out and turn off my brain for thirty minutes.

Thanks, Balatro.

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Remember how I had an entry for an upcoming Janice Hallett book called The Killer Question in my TBR spreadsheet, but I couldn’t find a mention for it anywhere on the internet?

Well…

I’ve been checking weekly, and last week, it popped up again on Goodreads. It now states it will be published August 1, 2025 by Viper Books. I can’t find it on Viper’s site or any book site (e.g. Blackwell’s) yet, but I feel vindicated that I obviously didn’t dream it up.

And I can’t wait to read it next summer.

A final update (I hope) of our scaredy pig situation: Beorn is pretty much back to normal and walking into all areas of his cage. It started when he was playing with his treat ball, and he accidentally pushed it with his nose across the invisible line in his cage that he wouldn’t cross. He followed it to get the treat, realized nothing was scary about the other half of his cage, and started going in there to get food or hang out.

He went back to sleeping in his house. And eating food from his green food bowl, no matter where it was placed. And not trembling in fear. The only thing he still won’t do is drink from his water bottle. He’s not scared of it — he’ll walk over to it but won’t take a drink. I’ve tried rubbing cucumber slices on it, which he thinks is a game, and he tries to snatch the slices from our fingers (giving a proud little wiggle jump when he succeeds). But he won’t drink from it, no matter how much I try to cajole him to take a sip. He’s getting water from vegetables, so it’s technically fine. I’d just like him to also drink water from the bottle.

Happy that he’s in a better emotional space.

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Stop procrastinating. Go make your backups. Don’t have regrets.

Seriously. Stop what you’re doing for a moment. It will take you fifteen minutes, tops. But you will have peace of mind for days and days. It’s the gift to yourself that keeps on giving.

As always, add any new thoughts to the Friday Backup post and peruse new comments to find out about methods, plug-ins, and devices that help you quickly back up your data and accounts.

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And now the blogs…

But first, second, helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week. To read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:

• None… sniff.

Okay, now my choices this week.

The Road Less Travelled writes about an opportunity in Ontario for bereaved parents. They can finally apply for and receive a free certificate of stillbirth for this child. She explains: “I have a little certificate that the nurses gave us at the hospital, with Katie’s tiny hand & footprints on it — but something from the government seems so much more ‘official,’ if you know what I mean, even if it’s only ceremonial.” It’s a small thing for government to do that has a big emotional impact for families.

Lastly, Finding a Different Path has an amusing exchange with a parent — well, amusing in retrospect. But it’s kind of an awesome general follow-up question for all questions in life: Do you have cats?

The roundup to the Roundup: Pig is back to normal. Your weekly backup nudge. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between October 18 – 25) and not the blog’s main URL. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week. Read the original open thread post here.