Category — IComLeavWe

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is now closed.  The new list will open on 6/30
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. I Want to be a Daddy (male infertility experience)
3. The Mud and the Lotus (cat, pain, sci-fi)
4. In Due Time (life, infertility, college student)
5. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, adoptee, life)
6. Our Twisty Turny Journey (endometriosis, donor egg, orm)
7. Bio Girl (parenting, infertility, FET for baby #2)
8. Kate; Uncensored (life, depression)
9. Wonderfully Ordinary (parenting, infertility, life)
10. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
11. Somewhere in the Middle (infertility, adoption, waiting)
12. Bring On The Babies… (miscarriage, IVF, infertility)
13. Someday (pregnancy after ivf)
14. Survive and Thrive (infertility, decisions, EFT)
15. Navigating Cyberloss (grief, loss, cyberloss)
16. Cats with passports (baby after IVF, FET, autoimmune issues)
17. As Good As it Gets? (infertility, parenting, TTC/adoption=confusion)
18. Yolk: A blog about eggs and sperm (pregnant, humour, infertility)
19. Trying for a baby (endometriosis, FET #2, IF)
20. Here We Go Again (babyloss, parenting, random)
21. My Daily Mooosings in the Netherlands (simplifying life, culture, Netherlands)
22. BattleFish (life, infertility, trying to conceive)
23. Because Two People Fell In Love (loss, love, puppy)
24. Baby, Borneo, or Bust… (parenting, TTC #2, travel)
25. The Port of Indecision (RPL, DOR/POF, smartass)
26. MommyForward (motherhood, self-improvement, adoption)
27. Joyous Birdie (de, ivf,loss of one twin, 49 y/o, pregnant)
28. Created Family (unexplained infertility, ttc #1, grad school)
29. Ready for my baby bump (TTC#1, life and everything in between)
30. Journey to Baby G (ivf, hope, anxiety)
31. Meier Madness (PCOS, gardening, life)
32. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
33. Babylicious Tales (parenting, newbie, monkey)
34. Praying for a Little Miracle (TTC, miscarriage, crafts)
35. A Field of Dreams (parenting, IFsupport, giveaways)
36. My Lady of the Lantern (neonatal loss, grief, TTC again)
37. Bunless In The Oven (azoospermia, donor sperm, infertility)
38. Life As I Know It (twins, newborn, life)
39. Feeling Beachie (daily life, humor, cats)
40. Infertile Revolution (infertility, feminism, ivf)
41. It’s Just Us Chickens (ivf1,ttc, mfi)
42. Mommy Odyssey (miscarriage, suspected ectopics, generally crazy)
43. A Half Baked Life (parenting after loss, food, yoga)
44. The 2 Week Wait (ttc ivf humor)
45. Savor The Moment (pcos, humor, life)
46. Every Day is a Country Song (ttc #1 after 5 miscarriages, possible use of donor sperm, faith)
47. Mommy-In-Waiting (pregnant, twins, IVF#4)
48. Taking the Long Way (formerly G-d Doesn’t Make Mistakes) (secondary infertility, rpl, second trimester)
49. After Years In The Making (motherhood, navy, life)
50. Miss(ed)Conception (parenting after infertility)
51. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
52. My Bumpy Journey (MFI, pregnancy, life)
53. Not a Fertile Myrtle (male factor, pcos, donor)
54. The Two Week Worship (infertility, encouragement, prayer)
55. Let’s Conversate About Irregardless (80’s, TTC, MFI)
56. Empty Whole (MFI, healing, next?)
57. Dragon & Blossom’s Adventures (infertility, life, love)
58. Rasta Less Traveled (donor egg, surrogacy in India, infertility)
59. Grit and Patience (infertility, positivity, ivf)
60. The misadventures of missohkay (pregnancy loss, adoption)
61. MissConception (ttc #1, IVF, PCOS)
62. The Lightness of Being on the Bike (biking, culture, travel)
63. The Road Less Traveled (pregnancy after loss, embryo donation)
64. A Year On… Our New Beginning {hopefully} (stillbirth, secondary IF, IVF)
65. IFSerenityNow (pregnancy, ivf, loss)
66. Zygotta Getting Pregnant (early pregnancy, infertility, pcos)
67. One Wheeler’s World (parenting after infertility, healing, life)
68. Diary of taking small steps toward baby steps (FET, IVF, hope)
69. 3hearts2hold1love (parenting after primary infertility, secondary infertility, life)
70. infertile myrtle (parenting after infertility)
71. Compromised Fertility (PCOS, first time IVF’er and gardener)
72. This Hampton Life of Mine (iui, pcos, secondary infertility)
73. TTC Baby E (infertility, pcos, ttc #1)
74. Trying To Conceive (IVF, pregnancy after IVF, support)
75. The Childless Mom (ivf, icsi, humor)
76. Babymakin’ 101 (life, IVF, crafts)
77. Life as I Know it (motherhood, emotions, road ahead)
78. Mission: Fertile Soul (FET, humor, profound joy)
79. Witty Infertility (infertility, acupuncture, PCOS)
80. For We Are Bound by Symmetry (TTC#1, autoimmune issues, IVF #1)
81. Zero Guarantees (suro pregnant, twins)
82. A Freckled Life (infertility marriage life)
83. Colours Of Cattiz (ivf#1, male factor, uk)
84. I’m Very Far Away (IUI, IVF, asia)
85. IUI to Roux-en-Y (weight loss, surgery, my journey)
86. 3 hearts 2 hold 1 love (parenting after infertility, life, secondary infertility)
87. Walking an Unknown Path (infertility, therapy, life)
88. Knocked up by Another Man (DE-IVF, parenting, Alaska)
89. I Believe In Miracles (RPL, motherhood after adoption)
90. Marriage 2.0 (infertility, domestic adoption, life)
91. The Stork Drop Zone (humor, infertility, life)
92. Unglamorous (toddler, marriage, family)
93. The Ladies in Waiting Book Club (books, infertility, support)
94. Wistfulgirl’s World (infertility, weight loss, life)
95. The Rocky Road To Motherhood (pregnancy after IVF)
96. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (parenting after IVF)
97. Holly’s Narrative Dream (secondary infertility coping)
98. Cradles and Graves (2nd-tri losses, infertility, rainbow?)
99. Just us and the cat (the dreaded 2ww)
100. To Those Who Wait (pregnancy after IF, triplets from IUI, bedrest)
101. The confessions of a wannabe mom (infertility, pcos, life)
102. Infertility Expat (pregnancy after ivf)
103. Beyond the Brick Wall (marriage, infertility, life)
104. A Writer In A Wheelchair (disability, writing, life)
105. Just Stop Trying and It Will Happen (infertility, life, snarkiness)
106. Lissie’s Luck (prep for IVF)
107. Then Comes the Baby in the Baby Carriage (TCM, TTC#1, unexplained infertility)
108. It’s Definitely Possible (pregnancy, SMC, IUI)
109. Cinderella Wore Glass Slippers (our first FET)
110. A peek into our journey (ttc #1, ivf, pcos)
111. Chasing Our Stork: Our Journey with Infertility (international adoption, unexplained infertility, faith)
112. This International Life (travel, expat life, Europe)
113. Flogging the Muse (art, painting, creativity)
114. The Bushey Life (baby after infertility)
115. GoTeamBaby (ivf, infertility, hope)
116. Rainbow Making 101 (loss, natural cycle, 2ww)
117. Thefertilitydaily (free ivf contest, infertility, humor)
118. Not Exactly What I Had Planned (ivf #3, severe mfi, life)
119. Just Us…For Now (pregnancy after miscarriage)
120. The Barreness (infertility, art, sadness)
121. Beyond the Wallpaper (ranting, balanced translocation, miscarriage)
122. Hearts Joined, Hands Fast (ivf#1, mfi, hope)
123. Diaries by Lucy (parenting, pcos, infertility)
124. My Infertile Confessions (pregnant with twins after IVF)
125. Exotic Hadron (personal, random, canadian)
126. Bean Dreams (PCOS, IUI, hope)
127. A Fine Mess (adoption, infertility, loss)
128. Embracing the Rain (natural cycle ivf, dor, rpl)
129. Life in the White House (donor sperm, crafting, pregnancy)
130. Becoming Me (baby, feelings, weight)
131. Baby On Mind (IVF, TTC#1, unexplained)
132. Traditionally Nontraditional (infertility life struggles)
133. One day at a time (army, infertility, fighting)
134. So Very Me (photography motherhood art)
135. Cammie.Me (parenting work food)
136. My Empty Womb (unexplained infertility frustration)
137. A Little Hope in My Pocket (pregnancy loss, infertility, life)
138. To Infertility and Beyond (ivf, endometriosis)
139. They say all you need is love (infertility.life.love)
140. TTC A Modern Medicine Miracle (ectopic loss, donor sperm, ttc)
141. Everyday Gyaan (motivation, inspiration, personal development)
142. Sprout (smbc, ttc #1, 30+)
143. Digital-Damita.net (frugal, green, ttc)
144. Getting There (adoption, parenting, life)
145. Adventures In Infertility-Land (infertility veteran, IVF, baby loss)
146. The list is now closed.  The new list will open on 6/30.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is red, the next month it will be blue, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is now closed.  The June list will open on 5/30.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Trying to conceive (IVF, MFI, waiting)
3. Here We Go Again (dead baby, parenting, random)
4. As Good As It Gets (infertility, parenting, adoption)
5. My Pathway to Motherhood (SMC, parenthood, life)
6. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
7. Navigating Cyberloss (online loss, grief, coping)
8. Tippy & Tidy’s Tumultuous Trip To Toddlers (TTC#1, IVF, unexplained)
9. Everyone else but me (parenting after IVF, feelings, ectopic pregnancy project)
10. Sticky Feet (parenting, twins, recipes)
11. Write Mind Open Heart (open adoption, mindfulness, perfect moments)
12. Our Twisty Turny Journey (infertility, donor egg, cancer)
13. My Hormonacoaster (FET, soap-making, staying positive)
14. Bio Girl (parenting, family, FET for #2)
15. I’m a Smart One (parenthood after infertility, surrogacy)
16. Chasing Our Stork: Our Journey with Infertility (ivf, hypothyroidism/unexplained infertility, graduate school)
17. Life in Finland – Elämä Suomessa (infertility, life, randomness)
18. Lifeslurper (ivf, over 45, donor eggs)
19. for all the things we hope for (unexplained infertility, nursing school, miscarriage)
20. The 2 Week Wait (humor, ttc, ivf)
21. SurlyMama (SMC, IUI, 2ww)
22. My Seriously Broken Oven (recurrent pregnancy loss, adoption)
23. Ready for my baby bump (trying to conceive)
24. Singular Desire (SMC, miscarriage, over 40)
25. My Daily Mooosings in the Netherlands (simplifying life, culture, Netherlands)
26. A Year On… Our New Beginning {hopefully} (stillbirth, infertility, IVF)
27. The Ladies in Waiting Book Club (book club, support, friendship)
28. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (RPL, DOR, clotting disorder)
29. Failed Genetics (adoption, infertility, life)
30. Motherhood Meets Me (internat’l adoption, parenting)
31. Compromised Fertility (PCOS, life & leisure, IUI)
32. Someday (mfi, first trimester, emotions)
33. Planet hausfrau (kids, crafts, gardening)
34. Created Family (unexplained infertility, pregnancy, graduate school)
35. Trying for a baby (TTC, FET/IVF, endometriosis)
36. A Page In My Book (IF grad, parenting, everyday life)
37. MissConception (pcos, ivf, ttc#1)
38. Project Happily Ever After (family, life, infertility)
39. The Road Less Traveled (pregnancy after loss, embryo donation)
40. all i ever wished for (if, fet, 2WW)
41. Mommy Odyssey (repeated miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, trying to be funny about it)
42. Olive You (sarcasm, infertility, marriage)
43. The Inadequate Conception (infertility, humor, new book)
44. My Lady of the Lantern (neonatal loss, recovering, TTC again)
45. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
46. Zygotta is Getting Pregnant (pcos, treatment, fiction)
47. Wistfulgirl’s World (life, infertility, weight loss)
48. Modern Medicine Miracle (infertility, IUI, donor sperm)
49. The Long Way Around (trying to conceive, miscarriage, pcos)
50. The Birds and The Bees (ivf #4, immature eggs, fet)
51. Meier Madness (fertility weightloss life)
52. Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (infertility, advocacy, hope)
53. Lissie’s Luck (PCOS, IVF, life)
54. Because Two People Fell In Love (love, life, family)
55. The One In Eight Couple (TTC #1, infertility, hope)
56. A Peek into our Journey (PCOS, first IVF)
57. Then Comes the Baby in the Baby Carriage (TTC#1, TCM, hope)
58. No Suzy Homemaker (IVF, RPL, stillbirth)
59. Exploring Chaos (IVF, TWW, parenting)
60. Poor Lucky Me (neonatal loss, trying again)
61. MommyForward (motherhood, self-improvement, adoption)
62. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
63. My Infertile Confessions (pregnant with twins after IVF)
64. The Stork Drop Zone (humor, infertility, positivity)
65. I Believe In Miracles (parenting, infertility, adoption)
66. For We Are Bound by Symmetry (ttc#1, unexplained infertility, ivf?)
67. Barrenista (infertility, adoption, fancy cupcakes)
68. I Want to be a Daddy (male infertility experience)
69. Whitney & Erick (RPL, last IVF try, adoption?)
70. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, adoptee, life)
71. I’m Very Far Away (infertility, IUI, asia)
72. The Pitter-Patter (pregnancy, loss, marrakech)
73. Did I Eat? (pregnancy, twins, high risk)
74. Embracing the Rain (mfi, dor, rpl)
75. A Toddler, A Triathlete and an Entrepreneur (secondary infertility, failed IVF, running)
76. GoTeamBaby (ivf, infertility, hope)
77. Bring on the Babies… (miscarriage, ivf, infertility)
78. Everyday is a Winding Road (infertility, running, IVF)
79. His & Her Infertility (Just Like The Matching Towels) (PCOS, azoo, international adoption)
80. That’s My Answer (question of the day, life, fun)
81. The Journey to Baby G (ivf, israel, anxiety)
82. The Deep Silence of a Long-Suffering Heart (mfi, ivf, miscarriage)
83. Cinderella Wore Glass Slippers (fet, life/teaching, adoption)
84. One Wheeler’s World (infertility, healing, life)
85. Weathering the Storm (adoption, thoughts, life)
86. Not Exactly What I Had Planned (severe mfi, ivf, icsi)
87. the misadventures of missohkay (pregnancy loss, adoption)
88. Adventures of Endo in the Arctic (endometriosis IVF infertility)
89. Holly’s Narractive Dream (secondary infertility coping)
90. The Rocky Road to Motherhood (pregnancy after infertility)
91. Marriage 2.0 (ttc, miscarriage, adoption)
92. Not Just an Army Wife (infertility, pregnancy loss, iui)
93. This Hampton Life of Mine (infertility, photography, mommy)
94. Articulation (life, books, randomness)
95. IFSerenityNow (ivf, loss, pregnancy)
96. Almost All The Truth (green, parenting, change)
97. Mommy In Waiting (pregnant, twins, IVF#4)
98. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
99. Cradles and Graves (pregnant after 2nd tri losses & infertility)
100. Diary of a Residency Widow (life in residency, PCOS, TTC)
101. One day at a time (army, torn, weight loss)
102. The Life of Miss Conception (cancer survivor, high FSH, miracle pregnancy)
103. A Summers Thoughts (parenting, cooking, family)
104. Journey To The End Of The Rainbow (ivf, success, motherhood)
105. Dealing with DOR (infertility, DOR, Creighton)
106. Searching for the Missing Piece (adoption, repeated miscarriage, creativity)
107. Wishing and Hoping and Thinking and Praying (infertility, PCOS, life)
108. Plans Change (adoption, pregnancy, infertility)
109. Bun(less) in the oven (infertility, no sperm, donor sperm)
110. Just us and the cat (fet, tubelessness, life)
111. carney exploits (infertility, unemployment, life)
112. G-d Doesn’t Make Mistakes (daughter, rpl, hope)
113. IUI to Roux-en-Y (surgery prep, weight loss, IF)
114. The Second Act (pregnant over 40, miscarriage, parenting)
115. Getting There (adoption, settling in, life)
116. We’re Making a Baby (IVF, twins, depression)
117. This is your brain on the verge of cracking (life(ish) after loss)
118. Storm in My Teacup (IVF#2 greyhound VW Bus)
119. Praying for a Little Miracle (miscarriage, coping, moving forward)
120. Our Little Family’s Journey (ttc#2, fet#1, pregnant)
121. wanna bee (adoption, loss, craftiness)
122. The Daily Miracle (secondary if, newly pregnant with # 2 thanks to IVF, humour)
123. Parenting After Infertility and Stillbirth (infertility, stillbirth, parenting)
124. Traditionally Nontraditional (infertility, TTC, life)
125. Infertility: A Diary (infertility, emotions, eggs)
126. Cats With Passports (baby after ivf, fet, autoimmune issues)
127. Bean Dreams (infertility, hope, motherhood)
128. Always Plus One (loss, pregnancy, life)
129. May I Please Have More (secondary infertility)
130. Four of a Kind (parenting, secondary infertility, loss)
131. Waiting For That Positive (IF, male factor, being positive)
132. Chois-R-Us (adoption, parenting, life)
133. Life’s Everyday Adventures! (everyday life, randomness)
134. All Aboard the Pity Boat (life, infertility, running)
135. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (parenting after RPL, cooking, life)
136. Rainbow Making 101 (miscarriage, ttc, fertility)
137. From the Heart of Alicia Marie (ttc, pcos, infertility)
138. Our Life Journey (infertility, faith, life)
139. The Lightness of Being on the Bike (biking, culture, travel)
140. The list is now closed.  The June list will open on 5/30.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is yellow, the next month it will be red, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is now closed.  The May list will open 5/1.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (IUI, RPL, clotting disorder)
3. I Want to be a Daddy (male infertility experience)
4. Among the Blossoms (life, infertility, randomness)
5. The 2 Week Wait (TTC, humor, infertility)
6. Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (infertility, advocacy, hope)
7. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
8. A Nuttier Life (PCOS, doxies, randomness)
9. CD1 Again (infertility, family)
10. Are We There Yet (parenting after IF)
11. Hausfrau (kids, crafts, cookery)
12. Balancing Act (parenting, military, multiples+1)
13. Cradles and Graves (2nd-tri losses, infertility, pregnant)
14. The Ladies in Waiting Book Club (book club, support, friendship)
15. Just us and the cat (fet, tubelessness, life)
16. Diary of taking small steps toward baby steps (IVF, FET, PCOS)
17. Your Great Life (infertility, emotional support, fertility health)
18. Dealing With DOR (high fsh, infertility)
19. Misconceptions About Conception (donor egg, feelings)
20. My Daily Mooosings in the Netherlands (simplifying life, culture, Netherlands)
21. Empty Whole (azoo, MFI, healing)
22. A Half Baked Life (parenting after loss, food, life)
23. Trying to conceive (IVF, support, ICSI)
24. Bio Girl (family, infertility, FET)
25. Reverie (adoption, parenting, infertility)
26. Babies, Balanced Translocations, and Being in my 30’s (IVF/PGD, miscarriage, ttc #1)
27. Will Train For Cream Cheese Icing (secondary infertility, being an athlete)
28. We Say IVF They Say FIV (infertility, IVF, parenting)
29. Pink In The Sheets (lesbian, love, lifestyle)
30. for all the things we hope for (infertility, nursing school, married life)
31. Somewhere In The Middle (infertility, adoption, waiting)
32. From Ms to Mrs…& back to Ms (canceled wedding, family)
33. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (baby after IVF)
34. Mommy Odyssey (miscarriage, healing, humor when called for)
35. Chasing Our Stork: Our Journey with Infertility (ivf #1, unexplained infertility, graduate school)
36. The Road Less Traveled (pregnancy after loss, embryo donation)
37. Storm in My Teacup (FET#2, greyhound, VWbus)
38. Momsmith (parenting, infertility/PCOS, randomness)
39. A Field of Dreams (parenting, weight loss, humour)
40. Where’s Our Stork? (infertility, pcos, azoo)
41. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
42. Aisha Iqbal (motherhood, parenting, life)
43. On Tap for Today (life, humor, Boston)
44. The Bushey Life (pregnancy after IF)
45. Coffee and Crafts (crafts, coffee, randomness)
46. Mephistos (green-living, alpha-geek, libertarian)
47. Failed Genetics (marriage, infertility, adoption)
48. Poor Lucky Me (neonatal loss, trying again)
49. As Good As It Gets (parenting after infertility)
50. InDueTime (life, infertility, pcos)
51. Baby Steps to Motherhood (ivf, MF, ttc)
52. The Stork Drop Zone (humor, infertility, positivity)
53. Our Stork Isn’t Great with Directions (infertility, parenting, work)
54. Eighteenyears (infertility, hopeful, psoriasis)
55. Joyous Birdie (de ivf, 49 years old, pregnant with twins)
56. Survive and Thrive (infertility, EFT, survival)
57. ReeWrite (breastfeeding, mommyhood, animals)
58. A Year On…. Our New Beginning (hopefully) (stillbirth, infertility, IVF)
59. The Daily Miracle (ivf, secondary if, humour)
60. Diary of a Mad Infertile Woman (injectables, infertility, coping)
61. Here We Go Again (dead baby, parenting, random)
62. Bodega Bliss (miscarriage, loss, grief)
63. My Hormonacoaster (ivf, mfi, pcos)
64. 2’s Company. 3’s a Family (female-factor infertility, loss, TTC)
65. The One in Eight Couple (unexplained infertility, family, life)
66. Stumbling Gracefully (parenting, photography, waxing philosophical)
67. Second Hand Happiness (buying nothing new for a year)
68. Broken Birds & Bees (infertility, humor, life)
69. Traditionally Nontraditional (family, TTC, infertility)
70. Palm Trees & Rainy Days (ivf, infertility, ttc)
71. Mission: Fertile Soul (fertility, joy, humor)
72. Searching for the Missing Piece (adoption, life, creativity)
73. MissConception (IVF, PCOS, TTC#1)
74. Whitney & Erick (miscarriage, IVF, cooking)
75. I’m Very Far Away (infertility, IUI, asia)
76. A Greater Yes (embryo adoption, parenting, infertility)
77. Elusive Take Home Baby (recurrent miscarriage, friendship, health)
78. One Wheeler’s World (life, love, parenting after if)
79. The Inadequate Conception (infertility, humor, new book)
80. My Daily Mooosings in the Netherlands (simplifying life, culture, Netherlands)
81. My Hopeful Journey (infertility app, hope, support)
82. Someday (pregnant, IVF, azoospermia)
83. Hearts Joined, Hands Fast (MFI, IUI, TTC)
84. The Journey Continues (kids, IVF, life)
85. Mommy In Waiting (pregnant from IVF#4)
86. This non-American Life (travel, expat life, Europe)
87. Flogging the Muse (art, painting, creativity)
88. Compromised Fertility (iui, two week wait, working with toddlers and preschoolers)
89. In Case You Need Proof (parenting, family, life)
90. Then Comes the Baby in the Baby Carriage (infertility, emotions, books)
91. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
92. Maternal Hope (pregnancy IVF twins)
93. The Panda Diaries (newborn, depression, life)
94. Exploring Chaos (IVF, parenting, TTC#2)
95. The Rocky Road to Motherhood (infertility, pregnancy, life)
96. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, adult adoptee, life)
97. ~*Sam and Corey*~TTC #1 (infertility, pregnancy, me)
98. No Kidding in NZ (childless infertility survival)
99. Savor The Moment (pcos, life, love)
100. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, life)
101. On the Road (vasectomy reversal, ttc, life)
102. Sunshine on Jupiter (IVF, pcos, loss)
103. I Believe In Miracles (RPL, motherhood after adoption)
104. Wistfulgirl’s World (infertility, life, A to Z blogging challenge)
105. Tippy and Tidy’s Tumultuous Trip to Toddlers (ttc#1, unexplained, multiple ivf)
106. Inconceivable! (ivf, step-parenting, life)
107. My Infertile Confessions (pregnant with twins after IVF)
108. One Wheeler’s World (infertility, parenting after if, life)
109. Grafting a Branch Onto the Family Tree (post attempted surrogacy, renewed TTC, weight loss)
110. Delayed in Dinkville (ttc#1, recurrent miscarriage, life)
111. Marriage 2.0 (marriage, infertility, life)
112. My Angel Baby…Aiden William (love, loss, hope)
113. IFSerenityNow (ivf, fet, loss)
114. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
115. More Room in my Heart (secondary infertility, diminished ovarian reserve, IVF#5)
116. Wonderfully Ordinary (parenting, infertility, life)
117. The Barreness’s Blog (parenting after infertility)
118. A peek into our Journey (infertility, waiting, IVF)
119. Ready Now to See it YOUR Way (ttc, god, life)
120. Lissie’s Luck (PCOS cautious hope)
121. Almost There (foster, adoption, secondary infertility)
122. Our Life Journey (infertility, life, faith)
123. Take Home Baby (pregnancy miscarriage infertility)
124. Uncommon Nonsense (infertility, pregnancy, advocacy)
125. Our New Plan A (life after ivf )
126. The Barreness (art infertility memories)
127. My Little Eye (art life craft)
128. Infertility in China… A Journey (ivf, infertility, expat)
129. Cinderella Wore Glass Slippers (IVF, coping, unexplained IF)
130. Everyone else but me (parenting after IVF, attic project, ectopic pregnancy)
131. Busted Plumbing (PCOS, parent after loss, awesomeness)
132. InfertilityUnexplained (unexplained infertility, iui, culture)
133. Not Exactly What I Had Planned (ivf, mfi)
134. For We Are Bound By Symmetry (ttc #1, unexplained infertility)
135. The (In)fertility Diaries (pregnancy, adoption, life)
136. Body Diaries by Lucy (family, pcos, if)
137. Infertilitee (secondary IF, 2yrs ttc, robot sex)
138. No Baby Ruth (3rd trimester, IUI, PCOS)
139. Diary of a Residency Widow (residency life, TTC#1, PCOS)
140. IUI to Roux-en-Y (surgery prep, weight loss, IF)
141. Pursuing Parenthood (Previously “Grafting a Branch onto the family Tree”) (post surrogacy attempt, resarting TTC, weight loss)
142. Raising Cain (someday) (IVF, infertility, waiting for #1)
143. My Rotten Eggs (repeat loss, idiots, everyday life)
144. Creating Our Miracle (IVF # 2, TTC # 1, MFI)
145. Watering Faith’s Seed (fet, faith, ttc)
146. Crazy [Beautiful] Dream (adoption, pregnant after infertility)
147. The Infertility Overachievers (pregnant after IVF)
148. Just Relax (humor, pregnancy, infertility)
149. Blawnde’s Blawg (pregnant after infertility)
150. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, trying again?)
151. One day at a time (hypothyroidism, army, IF)
152. AFM (pregnancy after loss, RPL, parenthood)
153. Pontifications of a Twin Mom (twins, humor, parenting)
154. Getting There (adoption, life, settling in)
155. The Fertility Daily (infertility, coping, humor)
156. GoTeamBaby (ivf, infertility, forty-two)
157. Life’s everyday adventures! (life, randomness, volunteering)
158. It Is Tuesday, Right?? (ivf, motherhood, sarcasm)
159. Salvageable (motherhood, TTC, stress)
160. Just Us…For Now (FET, miscarriage, infertility)
161. Beyond the Wallpaper (infertility, balanced translocation, miscarriage)
162. That’s My Answer (question of the day, fun, life)
163. Outside My Head (marathon, running, life)
164. Family of Two: The Adoption Chronicles (adoption, life, marriage)
165. Trying not to scream (infertility, loss, trying again)
166. The Sun’ll Come Out Tomorrow (I Hope) (pregnant after RPL)
167. About My Uterus (PCOS, loss, TTC#2)
168. Created Family (infertility, life, social work)
169. This Is Mommyhood (motherhood, life, humor)
170. Weathering the Storm (international adoption, health, thoughts)
171. My Dusty Uterus (humor, pregnancy, eggs)
172. Infertile in a Fertile Land (infertility, india, hope)
173. Just Stop Trying and It Will Happen (infertility, life, snarkiness)
174. Hope Springs Infertile (de ivf, parenting, life)
175. The Life of Miss Conception (high fsh, ridiculosity)
176. Life As I Know It (twins, life, baby)
177. Life as I know it… (infertility, IVF, life)
178. The Great Big IF (parenting after infertility, infertility, IVF)
179. The list is now closed.  The May list will open 5/1.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is blue, the next month it will be red, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list for March is now closed.  The April list will open on 3/31/11.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Yolk: A blog about eggs and sperm (infertility, ttc, humour)
3. The Stork Drop Zone (humor, infertility, treatments)
4. Diary of taking small steps toward baby steps (FET, PCOS, IVF)
5. Planet Hausfrau (crafts, cookery, kids)
6. HimPlusMe (pcos, ttc #1, weight loss)
7. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (new dx clotting, RPL, IUI)
8. The 2 Week Wait (ttc, infertility, humor)
9. Bio Girl (family, infertility, FET for baby #2)
10. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (parenting after losses, cooking, books)
11. Hope Springs Infertile (de ivf, parenting, life)
12. Twinside Out (twins, parenting, faith)
13. Infertility: A Diary (thoughts, emotions, decisions)
14. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
15. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
16. ReeWrite (pregnancy, mommyhood, animals)
17. Ambivalent Womb (loss, weighing options)
18. If By Yes (baby, books, mental health)
19. Find Joy Now (parenting, adoption, life)
20. Wistfulgirl’s World (ttc, weight loss, life)
21. One Wheeler’s World (life, love, parenting after if)
22. Someday (MFI, IVF, OMG)
23. Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (infertility, advocacy, hope)
24. Just Us and the Cat (recovery from 2nd ectopic, ivf, life post-tubes)
25. Holly’s Narrative Dream (infertility, family, life)
26. Baby Steps to Motherhood (IVF, infertility, male factor)
27. Write Mind Open Heart (open adoption, mindfulness, perfect moments)
28. A Half Baked Life (parenting after loss, food)
29. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, post infertility, life)
30. A little blog about the big infertility (adoption, overcoming loss, hope)
31. Songs for my Unborn Children (miscarriage, poetry, life)
32. Invisible Mother (recurrent miscarriage, emotions)
33. Mission: Fertile Soul (fertility, joy, humor)
34. A Peek into our Journey (PCOS, waiting, IUI)
35. The misadventures of missohkay (pregnancy loss, adoption)
36. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
37. Eggs In a Basketcase (newly pregnant, FET)
38. Team Baby (infertility, iui, ivf)
39. Life in the Last Frontier (open adoption, infertility, parenting)
40. Uncommon Nonsense (infertility, IVF, PCOS)
41. all i ever wished for (i.f., upcoming f.e.t., life)
42. I’m Very Far Away (infertility, IVF, expat)
43. Grafting a Branch on the Family Tree (intended parent/traditional surrogacy, weight loss)
44. Elusive Take Home Baby (recurrent miscarriage, infertility, frustrations)
45. The Handprints on my Heart (adoption, family)
46. A Field of Dreams (parenting, weightloss, humour)
47. The Port of Indecision (RPL, DOR/POF, smartass)
48. Diary of a Mad Infertile Woman (new to infertility, gonadotropin injections, anovulatory)
49. Buzz Off Infertility (pregnancy loss, TTC, pregnant w. #2)
50. We got hitched. We bought the 4 bedroom house. We had twins. Now what?!? (parenting, twins, life)
51. Chasing Our Stork: Our Journey with Infertility (unexplained, ivf, faith)
52. Lifeslurper (IVF after 40, donor eggs, depression)
53. Colours Of Cattiz (male factor, ivf, uk)
54. Our New Plan A (natural-ivf, gluten-free, dor)
55. Our Fertility Journey (miscarriage, mind-body connection, hypothalamic amenorrhea)
56. Bodega Bliss (miscarriage, loss, grief)
57. Seeking Shirley (infertility, IUI, miscarriage)
58. for all the things we hope for (infertility, miscarriage, nursing school)
59. We’re Making a Baby… (twins, IVF, infertility)
60. Shorty’s Adventure (pregnancy after IF)
61. Three Cats and a Baby (infertility, adoption, green parenting)
62. Leading Mama (motherhood, psychology, leadership)
63. As Fast As My Baby Can (infertility, ivf, unexplained)
64. Compromised Fertility (PCOS, miscarriage, infertility)
65. A Year On…. Our New Beginning (hopefully) (stillbirth infertility IVF)
66. Mommy Odyssey (miscarriage, healing, humor)
67. Therapy Is Expensive (open adoption, life, relationships)
68. As Good As It Gets (parenting after infertility)
69. The Bushey Life (high risk pregnancy)
70. The Ladies in Waiting Book Club (infertility, books, crafts, writers)
71. Life as I Know It (emotional, motherhood, decisions)
72. Mommy In Waiting (IV#4, hope, mfi)
73. Just Us…For Now (infertility, miscarriage, IVF)
74. Garden Variety Mama (cooking, health, toddler twins)
75. My Voice (life, family, humor)
76. Surviving the Secondary Infertility Madness (PCOS, loss, pregnancy)
77. Failed Genetics (infertility, adoption, family)
78. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (baby after infertility)
79. Random Thoughts From Angie (FET, life, family)
80. Removing Roadblocks (adoption, infertility, faith)
81. The Road Less Traveled (pregnancy after loss, embryo donation)
82. wanna bee (foster/adoption, craftiness, loss)
83. Sluice (california, white ceramic animals, home decor)
84. The Unbroken World (family, fertility, future)
85. Frogs In Texas (baby milestones family)
86. The Infertility Therapist (psychological aspects infertility)
87. Transplanted Thoughts (grief, baby loss, life)
88. Everyday Blessings (infertility, life, motherhood)
89. From IF to When (infertility, adoption, health)
90. In a Nutshell (azoospermia, ivf, immature eggs)
91. Bakery Closed Until Further Notice (miscarriage, relationships, non-ttc)
92. Unglamorous (marriage, toddler, finances)
93. Our Life Journey (infertility, pregnancy loss, faith)
94. Storm in My Teacup (FET#2, greyhound VW bus)
95. Stumbling Gracefully (parenting, photography, waxing philosophical)
96. Babies, Balanced Translocations, and Being in My 30’s (IVF/PGD, balanced translocation, RPL)
97. I’m Just Ducky, Thanks (ivf, medical issues, adoption)
98. Zero Guarantees (IVF, surrogate, life)
99. Jen Has A Pen (infertility, writing, marriage)
100. Survive and Thrive (infertility, EFT, fertility telesummit)
101. Infertility And Me (azoospermia, MFI, father)
102. MissConception (pcos, IUI, ttc #1)
103. Almost All The Truth (green, parenting, change)
104. I Believe In Miracles (parenting, infertility, adoption)
105. Creating Our Miracle (IVF # 2, TTC # 1, MFI)
106. Wishing and Hoping and Thinking and Praying (infertility,life, teaching)
107. MissConception (pcos, IUI, ttc#1)
108. It’s Definitely Possible (SMC, IUI, 2WW)
109. I Want to be a Daddy (male infertility experience)
110. One Day At A Time (infertility, hypothyroidism, weight loss)
111. Life Without Baby (childless-not-by-choice, coming to terms, infertility)
112. Your Great Life (fertility health advocate, emotional support, family-building)
113. On Tap for Today (life, humor, Boston)
114. Whitney & Erick (recurrent loss, immune, IVF)
115. Waiting For Our Miracle (pregnancy, IVF, infertility)
116. Mac and PC (IVF#1, anovulatory, health)
117. Amiracle4us (infertility, IVF, hope)
118. The Daily Miracle (secondary if, ivf, life humour)
119. Digital-Damita (ttc, frugal, green)
120. Love In the Bump Dump (infertility, humor, marriage)
121. And Then There Were Two… (infertility, miscarriage, ttc #1)
122. Lissie’s Luck (infertility, PCOS, frustration)
123. Our Little Family’s Journey (family, ttc#2, FET?)
124. NOT so Fertile Mertile (endometriosis, domestic adoption)
125. Everything After (parenting, marriage, TTC)
126. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Shop (food, news, prayer)
127. Junebugs Musings (if, adoption, life)
128. The Journey to a Little One to Call Our Own (pregnancy, infertility, life)
129. Trying Not to Scream (infertility, IUI, miscarriage)
130. To Those Who Wait (early pregnancy #1, triplets from IUI)
131. The Chronicles of Violetta Margarita (unexplained infertility, life, humor)
132. Too Many Fish to Fry (miscarriage, parenting, joy)
133. Adventures of a Dam Engineer (adoption, infertility)
134. Trying to conceive (ivf, icsi, support)
135. Waiting for that Positive (infertility, male factor, being positive)
136. Fearlessly Infertile (FET #2, weight loss, Ireland!)
137. Wonderfully Ordinary (parenting, infertility, life)
138. Pontifications of a Twin Mom (twins, parenting, celebrating life)
139. Going For It (domestic infant adoption)
140. The “G” Fam (baby j, sahm, ivf #2 (?))
141. Oven Seeking Bun (pcos, ivf#1, yoga)
142. My Broken Oven (miscarriage, anxiety, pregnancy)
143. Watering Faith’s Seed (infertility, faith, marriage)
144. Somewhere In The Middle (infertility, adoption, waiting)
145. Busted Plumbing (humor, PCOS, awesomeness)
146. This non-American Life (travel, expat life, Germany)
147. Flogging the Muse (art, painting, creativity)
148. Greetings from Nowhere, NM (infertility, hypothyroidism, rural living)
149. The Deep Silence of a Long-Suffering Heart (MFI, IVF, secondary infertility)
150. My Hopeful Journey (IF APP, advocate, support)
151. My Cheap Version of Therapy (iui#1, pcos, weightloss)
152. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, pregnancy)
153. Tippy & Tidy (TTC#1, IVF, unexplained)
154. Weathering the Storm (2ww, life, adoption)
155. Baby Magnesi (infertility, MFI, TTC)
156. Inconceivable! (TTC #1, IVF)
157. IFSerenityNow (ivf, fet, loss)
158. Confessions of a wannabe mom (trouble making babies)
159. Hope Springs Eternal (ivf, life, infertility)
160. Hope is a Four Letter Word (annovulatory, first ivf)
161. Sparkles and Fairy Tales: Waiting on my Fertile Godmother (infertility, pregnancy, marriage)
162. The Childless Mom (male & female infertility, humor, ICSI)
163. Trying To Get a Bun In My Oven (optimistic, sweet, tough)
164. My Dusty Uterus (humorously stubborn eggs)
165. Baby Talk (infertility, hope, treatments)
166. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, life)
167. Gingersnap Alley (kids, play, how-to)
168. Getting There (adoption, settling in, life)
169. Traditionally Nontraditional (infertility, hope, wishes)
170. Cheese Curds and Kimchi (adoption, family, preparations)
171. Just Us Two (IVF, infertility, anxiety)
172. The Infertility Overachievers (pregnant after IVF)
173. A Nuttier Life (TTC, hope, awesomeness)
174. My Hormonacoaster (ivf, ttc#2 10 years, loss)
175. My Blog Is Boring (life, love, happy)
176. *Our Wish* (ttc family miscarriages)
177. IUI to Roux-en-Y (appointments, goals, weight-loss)
178. The Diary of My Fertility Roller Coaster (infertility, pcos, hope)
179. The Inadequate Conception (infertility, humor, new book)
180. The Climb (twins, parenting, infertility)
181. The list for March is now closed.  The April list will open on 3/31/11.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is green, the next month it will be teal, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: the February list is now closed.  The March one will open on 3/1.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Mama T’s Madcap Misadventures in Life and Babymaking (a.r.t., foster parenting, sass)
3. Riding the IVF Roller Coaster (pregnancy after loss)
4. Life in the Waiting Womb (embryos, choice, creating joy and meaning in life)
5. Yolk: a blog about eggs and sperm (TTC, infertility, humour)
6. Bio Girl (parenting, infertility, FET for baby #2)
7. Aisha Iqbal (parenting, motherhood, life)
8. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (parenting after losses, books, cooking)
9. One Wheeler’s World (life, love, parenting after if)
10. Searching for the Missing Piece (adoption, life, infertility)
11. Ambivalent Womb (MFI, multiple loss)
12. Hope Springs Eternal (MFI, photos, infertility)
13. Production, Not Reproduction (transracial open adoption)
14. The 2 Week Wait (ttc ivf humor)
15. Diary of a Mad Infertile Woman (infertility, gonadotropin injections, new to infertility)
16. The Bushey Life (pregnancy after IF)
17. Lifeslurper (donor eggs, IVF, over 40)
18. Mac and PC (anovulatory, IVF #1, acupuncture)
19. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
20. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (pregnancy after IVF)
21. Life with Endo and PCOS (endo, pcos, trying again)
22. My Dusty Uterus (miscarriage pregnancy hope)
23. Baby On Mind (TTC#1, IVF, unexplained)
24. Becoming Me (pregnancy, nerves, randomness)
25. A Field of Dreams (parenting, life, weightloss)
26. In Due Time (life, infertility, pcos)
27. My Cheap Violin (single, ttc, happiness)
28. Flogging the Muse (art, painting, creativity)
29. This non-American Life (travel, expat life, Europe)
30. Waiting for our miracle (adoption, healing, coaching)
31. As Good As It Gets (parenting after infertility)
32. Where’s Our Stork? (infertility, pcos, MFI)
33. Wistfulgirl’s World (life, weight loss, ttc)
34. CD1 Again (infertility, taking a break)
35. Uncommon Nonsense (infertility, pcos, hypothyroidism)
36. Empty Hole (MFI, microTESE, IVF)
37. Mommy Odyssey (miscarriage, healing, humor)
38. I Can’t Control Everything (ivf, ttc #1, rpl)
39. Maternal Hope (IVF, ttc#1, faith)
40. Someday (IVF, azoos, love)
41. A PGD Blog (IVF, PGD, disability)
42. Enchilada Sunrise (fibrecrafts, bipolar, life)
43. Cooked Heads (such sweet silliness)
44. Try, Try Again (infant loss, infertility, IVF)
45. Bodega Bliss (miscarriage, loss, grief)
46. Garden Variety Mama (cooking, healthy food, parenting)
47. As Fast As My Baby Can (infertility, ivf, unexplained)
48. Cloudy With A Chance of Hope (pregnancy after multiple losses, grief, infertility)
49. Surviving the Secondary Infertility Madness (pcos, infertility, PAL)
50. The Deep Silence of a Long-Suffering Heart (secondary infertility, male factor, IVF)
51. Just Us…For Now (infertility, IVF, miscarriage)
52. Baby Dreams (pregnant with #2 after IF/recurrent miscarriage, my son, life)
53. Chasing Mommyhood (foster-adoption, single, ttc)
54. Holy Crap! You can’t talk about miscarriage (TTC, secondary infertility, random)
55. The Road Less Traveled (pregnancy after loss)
56. for all the things we hope for (infertility, miscarriage, nursing school)
57. Adventures in Name Changing (marriage, infertility, evolving)
58. Run Amok Amok (marriage life infertility)
59. My Cheap Version of Therapy (iui, weight loss, unemployment)
60. One Day at a Time (life, infertility, hypothyroidism)
61. Inspired Ima (triplets, jewish, knitting)
62. Colours Of Cattiz (male infertility, ttc, ivf)
63. A Fine Mess (TTC, miscarriage, infertility)
64. Our Search for Hope (adoption, everyday life, infertility)
65. Mission: Fertile Soul (fertility, living presently, humor)
66. Life in the Last Frontier (open adoption, parenthood, alaska)
67. Stumbling Gracefully (motherhood (after loss), photography, thoughts on mindfulness and loving kindness)
68. On Tap for Today (life, humor, boston)
69. NOT so Fertile Mertile (domestic adoption, endometreosis)
70. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (IVF, recurrent losses, DOR)
71. Snarky Momma (family, moving, Durham)
72. A little blog about the big infertility (embryo adoption, loss, IF acceptance)
73. Blawnde’s Blawg (new beginnings, infertility, support)
74. The Miss Ruby (living childfree notbychoice)
75. trying to conceive (IVF, support, ICSI)
76. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, life)
77. I’m Very Far Away (infertility, IVF, expat)
78. Our Miracle In The Making..A Great Joy Is Coming (recurrent loss due to immune issue, IF treatments, pregnancy)
79. One Day…One Pound…and One Cycle at A Time (cycling, infertility, weight)
80. Motherhood Meets Me (adoption motherhood after infertility)
81. Time Well Wasted (infertility, possible IVF, life)
82. We Have Angel Wings (infertility, balanced translocation, pregnancy)
83. An Unexpected Life (adoption, parenting, infertility)
84. Country Mouse & City Mouse (food, cooking, kids)
85. The Rocky Road to Motherhood (pregnancy, infertility, life)
86. Life Without Baby (CNBC, infertility, living)
87. Whole Heartedly (pregnancy ivf PhD)
88. It’s Definitely Possible (IUI, SMC, 2ww)
89. Diary of taking small steps toward baby steps (pcos, ttc, ivf)
90. I’m Just Ducky, Thanks (unexplained, IVF, depression)
91. Exploring Chaos (ttc #2, parenting, life)
92. Keeping my eyes on Jesus (IVF, faith, miscarriage)
93. Having Kids Sounds Simple Enough (ivf w/pgd, loss, parenting after loss)
94. The Inadequate Conception (infertility, humor, new book)
95. Babies, Balanced Translocations, and Being in My 30’s (infertility, miscarriage, IUI)
96. Infertile Follies (IVF, ectopic pregnancy, infertility)
97. Storm in My Teacup (FET, greyhound, VWbus)
98. The Infertility Therapist (psychological aspects of infertility)
99. Baby Bump Wanted (BFP baby #1)
100. The Journey to Baby G (IUI, miscarriage, humor)
101. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
102. The Chronicles of Violetta Margarita (unexplained infertility, life, humor)
103. 2’s Company. 3’s a Family (infertility, combined factors, TTC)
104. The Eternal Guestroom (infertility, polyps, IVF)
105. The Advo.cat (ttc after miscarriage)
106. Eggcetera (adoption, family, infertility)
107. Failed Genetics (adoption, family, marriage)
108. I Want to be a Daddy (male infertility experience)
109. A Peek into our Journey (PCOS, waiting, loss)
110. Holly’s Narrative Dream (fertility, family, life)
111. His & Her Infertility (PCOS, azoo, international adoption)
112. It Is Tuesday, Right?? (motherhood, pregnancy, IVF)
113. Sarah’s Life (infertility, adoption, PCOS)
114. The Graphic Haibuneer (haibun, haiga, haiku)
115. Booferd (loss of child, adoption, grief)
116. Weathering the Storm (life, infertility, trying)
117. Our Fertility Journey (infertility, family, miscarriages)
118. Full Circle (foster, adoption, adoptee)
119. Inconceivable! (infertility, family, step-parenting)
120. The Journey to Baby Belgard (IVF, unexplained infertility, life)
121. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
122. Project Baby (male factor infertility, iui, my story)
123. Adopt to Change (adoption, waiting, family)
124. Happily Ever After (twins family infertility)
125. infertile myrtle (endometriosis, ttc #2, ppd)
126. Our Little Family’s Journey (ivf #3, ttc #2, life)
127. Whitney & Erick – Our Home on the Web (RPL, IVF, confused)
128. Almost All The Truth (green, parenting, change)
129. Pontifications of a Twin Mom (twins, stories, celebrating life)
130. Because Of Match – Trying to make a baby via IVF FET (PCOS, FET, pregnancy)
131. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
132. A Greater Yes (embryo adoption, parenting, infertility)
133. Your Great Life (fertility awareness, infertility support, fertility coaching)
134. Songs For My Unborn Children (infertility, poems, life)
135. Joyous Birdie (IVF, twins, older mother, pregnant)
136. Infertility in China (ttc, ivf, iui)
137. A Little Bit of Life (preemie baby, infertility, marriage)
138. Twinside Out (twins after ivf)
139. Plans Change (adoption, pregnancy, parenting)
140. Knocked up by Another Man (DE-IVF, parenting, alaska)
141. Never Giving Up Hope (loss of triplets, pcos, ttc again)
142. Our New Plan A (ivf #5, dor, 2ww or what now?)
143. MissConception (pcos, infertility, IUI)
144. Sheepishly Ambitious (knitting, doulaing, crafting)
145. Mommy In Waiting (ivf#3, mfi, ttc)
146. The Barreness’s Blog (parenting after infertility)
147. Infertility Unexplained (unexplained infertility, iui, infertility news)
148. Meant to Be (formerly Our New Normal) (adoption, cancer survivor, learning to heal)
149. AYear On… Our New Beginning (Hopefully) (infertility stillbirth mother)
150. Grafting a Branch onto the Family Tree (traditional surrogacy, ip)
151. Our Life Journey (infertility, pregnancy loss, faith)
152. Stolen Fertility (infertility, IUI, thoughts)
153. Sunshine on Jupiter (iui, miscarriage, pcos)
154. Walking An Unknown Path (infertility, ivf, therapy)
155. The Barreness (infertility, dreams, irony)
156. Not a Fertile Myrtle (male factor, donor IUI, life)
157. Four of a Kind (parenting, secondary infertility, loss)
158. OnTheLanai (infertility, life, love)
159. Getting There (adoption, waiting, life)
160. The C’s Baby Dance (IF break, insurance changes, adoption?)
161. Chasing Our Stork: Our Journey with Infertility (infertility, iui, ivf )
162. The R House (adoption infertility hope)
163. Infertility Overachievers (IVF, 2WW, son)
164. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Shop (food, news, prayer)
165. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (adoption, infertility, life)
166. Find Joy Now (joy, parenting, life)
167. That’s My Answer (question of the day, fun, life)
168. Wishing For The Gift of Life (ivf, ccrm, family)
169. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, pregnancy)
170. Circus Children (miracle, pregnancy, birth?)
171. Compromised Fertility (infertility, treatments, feelings)
172. Bakery Closed Until Further Notice (miscarriage, relationships, non-ttc)
173. ReeWrite (pregnancy, motherhood, animals)
174. The Ladies in Waiting Book Club (books, infertility, support)
175. Just Us Two (infertility, marriage, de-stressing)
176. The Diary of My Fertility Roller Coaster (fertility, babies, life)
177. Metholic (infertility, foster care, humor)
178. My Dusty Uterus (humor, stubborn eggs)
179. the February list is now closed.  The March one will open on 3/1

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is violet, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.