Category — IComLeavWe

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is closed for March.  The April list will go up on the 30th.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (ttc after losses, books, cooking)
3. In Due Time (infertility, pcos, life)
4. Waiting for Sunflower (pregnancy, gestational diabetes, infertility)
5. All Aboard the Pity Boat (infertility, exercise, life)
6. ErnieGirl is TTC (undiagnosed infertility condition)
7. Our Surrogacy Adventure (surrogacy, donor eggs, pcos)
8. Blogging MoRe (love, marriage, friendship)
9. Sparkly Things Distract Me (donor embryos, 40+, stuff)
10. Wishing4One (IVF, Egypt, life)
11. Baby On Mind (IVF, ttc#1, unexplained)
12. No Suzy Homemaker (family, babyloss, life)
13. Hopelessly TTC (MFI, azoospermia, guy’s perspective)
14. Everyone Else But Me (icsi, FET, hysteroscopy)
15. Your Great Life (fertility coaching, women, self-belief)
16. Infertility And Me (male factor infertility)
17. Blurbs by Jennifer (kids, work, life)
18. The Egg Drop Post (infertility, adoption, spirituality)
19. Parenthood for Me (infertility, adoption, coping)
20. Journey to the End of the Rainbow (acupuncture, IVF, infertility)
21. Journey Through Infertility and TTC (pregnancy, family, baby)
22. Holy Moly Toledo(s)! (twins, infertility, life rambles)
23. Letters to My Unborn Child (love, baby, waiting)
24. Our Journey, but Not Our Plan… (adoption, iui, m/c)
25. Paisley Blooms (someday) (infertility, ttc, life)
26. My Ordinary Miracles (parenting, twins, toddler)
27. Thoughts from A Blonde (infertility, family, life)
28. Our Incredible Journey (adoption, special needs)
29. Baby Magnesi (ttc, infertility, family)
30. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
31. Woman Anyone? (unexplained IF, primary sub-fertility, blah advice)
32. Baby Dreams (ttc #2 with pcos, infertility, life)
33. Life with Endometriosis and PCOS (pcos, endo, waiting)
34. PandaBox33’s Blog (love, life, everything)
35. Half as Many Chances (infertility, hypothalamic amenorrhea)
36. The Subfertile Frugalista (pg after loss, shopping, frugal musings)
37. The Road Less Traveled (infertility, IVF, pregnancy)
38. The Birds and the Bees (ivf, infertility, unexplained)
39. My Infertility Woes (ttc, spirituality, life)
40. Tenaciously TTC (secondary infertility, loss, FET)
41. Not The Path I Chose (RPL, IVF, pregnant with twins)
42. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Shop (news, books, music)
43. Creating a Family (adoption, infertility, adoptive parenting)
44. The Barreness’s Blog (parenting after infertility)
45. The Bushey Life (ttc, life, infertility)
46. Exploring Chaos (baby after IF, weightloss, life)
47. Write, Baby, Repeat (adoption, infertility, writing)
48. My Life’s Journey (infertility, miscarriage, loss)
49. All My Peccadilloes (recovery, loss, waiting)
50. Infertile Myrtle (parenting after infertility)
51. A Half Baked Life (food, workingmomhood, infertility)
52. Oh Sanity, Wherefore art Thou? (parenting after IF/loss, life, random)
53. Mindful Meandering (adoption, infertility, parenting)
54. Communique (life, infertility, ivf)
55. The Babbling Bitter Bitch (humor, clomid, secondary infertility)
56. Hopes and Dreams for Us (childfree living, life, cooking)
57. For the Love of Shoes…and a Baby, Too (ivf, infertility, everyday life)
58. My Lovely Lady Bump (ttc, charting, pregnancy)
59. Wheresmy2lines (repeat ivf’s, pcos, life)
60. Return to Innocence (PPD, IF, recovery)
61. Infertility: The (Type A) Nightmare (infertility, taking a break, IUI)
62. Inconceivable! (ttc, infertility, family)
63. The (In)fertility Diaries (new IF, TTC, life)
64. A Greater Yes (infertility, embryo adoption, pregnancy)
65. Putting the Fun in Infertility (cancer, ivf, icsi)
66. It Only Takes One Time…Not! (MFI, IVF-ICSI, pregnancy)
67. Not a Fertile Myrtle (mfi, pcos, endometriosis)
68. Wistfulgirl’s World (PCOS, ttc, life)
69. Determined to have joy (infertility, inspiration, life)
70. We Got Hitched. We bought the 4 bedroom house. Now what??? (twin pregnancy, recurrent loss, randomness)
71. Riding the IVF Roller Coaster (ivf, stress, miscarriage)
72. Fertility Chick (infertility, humour, pcos)
73. In The Name of the Father (male infertility, humour, male perspective)
74. And Baby Would Make 3! (ttc, pcos, clomid)
75. AnxiousMummy (IUI, TTC, ectopic)
76. A + B, Waiting for C (IUI, waiting, distractions)
77. Through The Eyes Of a Stranger (infertility, anything, adoption)
78. Find Joy Now (humor, life, what now?)
79. Such A Good Egg (1st-time-IUIer, distractions, excited)
80. fickleinpink, the dark side (relationship meme life)
81. My Walking Path (nature, writing, photos)
82. The Yerkes Life~Learning to Embrace God’s Plans (ivf, faith, family)
83. Are We There Yet (fibroid free, IVF abroad, Hungary)
84. Evolutionary Dead End? (ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, ttc after loss)
85. Praying for a Family (pcos, bitterness, fostering)
86. Once an Infertile (septated uterus, endo, IF struggles)
87. Wait, What? (unexplained, IVF, pop-culture)
88. Big Belly or Bust (miscarriage, TTC, exercise)
89. The Pregnant Yuppy (infertility, ttc, miscarriage)
90. Venting Vagina (FET, acupuncture, LOL)
91. Raising Miles (parenting after IF, baking, randomness)
92. Cape Girl’s Journey (stillbirth, inferility, IVF)
93. chrissy (infertility, adoption, openness)
94. Raining Raining (fost/adopt, life, fertility)
95. The Fiegels (life, infant son, toddler son)
96. Knock Me Up, Doc (fertility shots, infertility)
97. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
98. On Tap for Today (life, humor, Boston)
99. Living With PCOS (ttc, secondary infertility, pcos)
100. The Gal Who Wants to be Anywhere But Where She Is (longterm infertility loss)
101. Impatiently Waiting for a Baby (ivf, condo, injections)
102. Tammy’s Journey (donor embryos, Christian, family)
103. The Pitter-Patter (pregnancy, marrakech, life)
104. My Basic World (miscarriage, unexplained, IVF#1)
105. Hope for Healing (endometriosis, pcos, chronic pelvic pain)
106. Adventures in Glass (twin pregnancy after IVF, life)
107. Trying Not to Scream (iui, infertility, life)
108. Alex’s Adventures (infertility, decisions, hope)
109. In the Middle with You (infertility, loss, life)
110. Being Joyful Always (infertility, weight loss, healthy eating)
111. I Will Be A Mom … Someday (infertility, faith, hope)
112. That’s My Answer (question of the day, fun, life)
113. Outside My Head (life, motherhood, photos)
114. Pollination Chronicles (MFI, fertilization defect, ICSI)
115. My Glass Case of Emotion (infertility, loss, IVF)
116. Busted Plumbing (pcos, ttc, awesomeness)
117. Houston, We Have a Problem (secondary infertility, life)
118. Oven Seeking Bun (pcos, follistim, yoga)
119. Junebug’s Musings (IF, angst, hodgepodge)
120. Hope in Virginia (pregnancy after IVF)
121. Her Womb, Our Hearts (domestic infant adoption, army wife, faith)
122. My Infertility Diaries (infertility marriage grief)
123. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, IVF)
124. The Sun’ll Come Out Tomorrow (I Hope) (recurrent loss, hope, marriage)
125. Overcoming Obstickles (infertility, acupuncture, clomid)
126. A Tale (of the Trials and Tribulations) of Trying (pregnancy, anxiety and depression, pregnancy loss)
127. Fearlessly Infertile (IVF, miscarriage, military)
128. CD1 Again (clomid, infertility, life)
129. Romancing the Stone (pregnancy, love, ivf after 40)
130. Hoping For Another Little One (ttc#2, iui, family)
131. Twists of Fate (pregnancy after loss)
132. Mommy In Waiting (azoospermia, infertility, ttc)
133. Ready To Be A Mom (infertility, ivf, hope)
134. My So-Called Life (mthfr, pcos, chemistry)
135. My Elusive Baby (infertility, treatments, uncertainty)
136. Hope in Briarrose (pregnancy, life in general, gestational diabetes)
137. IF In Big Sky Country (pregnancy, infertility, life)
138. Body Diaries by Lucy (pregnancy, pcos, if)
139. Off to See the Wizard (secondary IF, IVF, ectopic)
140. Random Thoughts from Angie (ttc, life, family)
141. My Stories: An IFer’s blog (IUI #3, unexplained infertility, life)
142. Inconceivable?! (IVF, NOA, life)
143. The Unfair Struggle (male-factor, life, speedskating)
144. Partners In Crime (twins, humour, life)
145. The Road Worth Traveling (pregnancy, fitness, life)
146. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, ttc #3)
147. The Journey of Life (pregnancy, infertility, life)
148. The Adventures of a New Mom (baby, recipes, stories)
149. Life and Love in the Petri Dish (humor, hope (after 5 miscarriages), IVF #6 (in progress))
150. Our Journey (life, ttc, hardship)
151. The Turning Of Paige (infertility, teaching, weight loss)
152. The Buonanno Family (children, life, family)
153. The list is closed for March.  The April list will go up on the 30th.

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is green, the next month it will be yellow, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: the list is now closed.  The March list will open on 2/28.
  
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. ErnieGirl is TTC (undiagnosed infertility condition)
3. The Bushey Life (ttc, life, infertility)
4. Baby On Mind (TTC#1, IVF, unexplained)
5. The Weekly Zeke (infertility, ttc, family)
6. Conceive This! (MFI, FET, pregnant)
7. Waiting for Sunflower (pregnancy, infertility, life)
8. The Infertile Mind (humor, comics, life)
9. Weebles Wobblog (open adoption, mindfulness, perfect moments)
10. Don’t Scare Easy (hysterectomy, cat, sci fi)
11. PandaBox33’s Blog (love, life, gratefulness)
12. Our Journey, but Not Our Plan… (IUI, IVF, FET)
13. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, ttc #3)
14. We got hitched. We bought the 4 bedroom house. Now what??? (IVF, pregnancy, recurrent loss)
15. The Impatient Optimist (infertility, pcos, impatience)
16. The Egg Drop Post (infertility, adoption, spirituality)
17. Paisley Blooms (someday) (infertility, ttc, yoga)
18. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (ttc after losses, books, cooking)
19. Infertili- T & A (IVF break, foster parenting, sass)
20. Fertility Foibles (infertility, humor, china)
21. Tenaciously TTC (FET, miscarriage, infertility)
22. AnxiousMummy (iui, ttc, loss)
23. In Due Time (life, infertility, pcos)
24. Musings of a Fat Chick (smc, infertility, life)
25. Dreaming of Quiet Places (emotional abuse recovery, ponderings, my cute dog)
26. Melissa’s Thoughts and Realizations (TTC, MFI, IVF)
27. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
28. Through The Eyes Of A Stranger (infertility, adoption, family)
29. Sippy Cups Are Not For Starbucks (parenting, sarcasm, ttc)
30. All Grown Up (domestic infant adoption, waiting, random)
31. Such A Good Egg (IUI#1, midwest, hopeful)
32. The Babbling Bitter (infertile) Bitch (infertility, loss, thoughts)
33. Your GreatLife (fertility coaching, women, self-belief)
34. The Truth Is Out There (borderline premature ovarian failure, IUI #2, optimism)
35. Junebugs Musings (TTC, life, fun)
36. Infertility And Me (male factor infertility)
37. Mindful Meandering (parenting after infertility, adoption)
38. Hopelessly TTC (MFI, azoospermia, guy’s perspective)
39. Are We There Yet (overseas IVF, fibroids, busy life)
40. Wistfulgirl’s World (PCOS, infertility, life)
41. Conception Deception (mfi, ivf, finances)
42. Holy Moly Toledo(s)! (twins after IF, life, random thoughts)
43. Three is a Magic Number (MFI, considering IVF/ICSI)
44. Wishing4One (IVF round 4, infertility, Egypt)
45. Hopes and Dreams for Us (childfree after infertility, encouragement, life)
46. The Royal Report (embryo adoption, faith, everyday life)
47. Write, Baby, Repeat (adoption, infertility, writing)
48. Inconceivable! (ttc, infertility, family)
49. Raising Miles & Making Wine (parenting after IF, baking, randomness)
50. Everyone Else But Me (ICSI, unknown, future)
52. Fertility Chick (infertility, PCOS, humour)
53. Busted Plumbing (loss, pcos, awesomeness)
54. The Road Less Traveled (infertility, IVF, books)
55. In the Name of the Father (male infertility, diui, male perspective)
56. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
57. Mommy In Waiting (azoospermia, infertility, ttc)
58. The Yerkes Life~Learning to Embrace God’s Plans (ivf, faith, family)
59. Destined to be an Old Woman With No Regrets (ppd, parenting after loss, life)
60. A Long And Winding Road (infertility, hobbies, faith)
61. The Subfertile Frugalista (TTC after loss, PCOS diet, frugal musings)
62. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, IVF)
63. Parenthood for Me (adoption infertility coping)
64. The Pitter-Patter (infertility, MFI, marrakech)
65. Infertility Musings (TTC #1, acupuncture, RE)
66. Below Average Athlete (infertility, daily life, health)
67. Journey to the End of the Rainbow (infertility, ivf, acupuncture)
68. It Only Takes One Time…Not! (severe MFI, IVF-ICSI, pregnancy)
69. Misadventures with Andi (frenchie-stuff, food, travel)
70. Cherish This Baby (hope, faith, babies)
71. The Birds and The Bees (infertility, iui, ivf)
72. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
73. Life Happens When You’re Making Other Plans (IVF, faith, family)
74. I Will Be A Mom … Someday (infertility, hope, waiting)
75. FortheLoveofShoesandaBaby, Too (ivf, fertility, fashion)
76. Salvageable (ttc, marriage, work)
77. All Aboard the Pity Boat (infertility, exercise, life)
78. The Sun’ll Come Out Tomorrow (I Hope) (recurrent loss, marriage, hope)
79. The Journey Through Life (TTC #1, infertility, life)
80. Mama Bear (adoptive parent, domestic adoption)
81. Adventures of a military family of 8 (family life, depression, reviews)
82. Delinquent Eggs (miscarriage, egg quality, limbo)
83. Infertility: a Type A’s Nightmare (infertility infertility infertility)
84. Barefoot And…. (parenting, infertility, food)
85. Venting Vagina (IVF, omglolwtf, acupuncture)
86. Nicole’s Diary (natural infertility, vitamins)
87. Confessions of a Fallopian Tube (infertility, life, Puerto Rico)
88. Creating HackSpawn (PCOS, TTC, life)
89. Glass Case of Emotion (IVF, infertility, m/c)
90. The (In)fertility Diaries (trying to conceive, pregnancy loss, new IF)
91. The Road to Happily Ever After (infertility, PCOS, IUI)
92. A Greater Yes (embryo adoption, pregnancy, faith)
93. That’s My Answer (question of the day, fun, life)
94. Outside My Head (parenting, photos, movies)
95. Daria’s Blog (fun, observations, 30 something life)
96. Find Joy Now (infertility, inspiring words, humor)
97. Journey Through Infertility and TTC (pregnancy, doctor’s appointments, milestones)
98. Letters to My Unborn Child (pregnancy, family, faith)
99. Trying Not to Scream (iui, infertility, life)
100. Trying to Get Knocked up by Another Man (DE-IVF, life, military)
101. Hoping for Another Little One (IUI?, ttc #2, family)
102. Sparkly Things Distract Me (old eggs, donor embryos, work)
103. On Tap for Today (life, humor, boston)
104. Inconceivable?! (life, DIUI, NOA)
105. Wanna Be Momma (infertility, recurrent pregnancy loss, coping)
106. A Tale (of the Trials and Tribulations) ot Trying (pregnancy anxiety pregnancy-loss)
107. The Daily Doings of Mr Silly and Little Miss Trouble (twins, parenting after infertility, atheism)
108. In the Middle With You (infertility, loss, faith)
109. My Infertility Woes (infertility, spirituality, ttc)
110. Wheresmy2lines (repeated ivf, coping, male and female factors)
111. A Space of My Own (my son, ttc #2, life)
112. It’s Called a Varico-what? (IVF, male factor, life)
113. Communique (life, infertility, ivf)
114. Blogging MoRe (life, marriage, everything)
115. My Basic World (infertility, miscarriage, IUI)
116. My Life’s Journey (IVF, infertility, miscarriage)
117. Newly Pregnant in NYC (pregnancy after IF, PCOS, hope)
118. Circus Children (life, love, FET)
119. Exploring Chaos (baby after IF, life, change)
120. Romancing the Stone (IVF, pregnancy, career girl)
121. Endo-a-go-go (donor egg IVF)
122. Happy High Heels (infertility, ivf, twin pregnancy)
123. Wandering Wonderment (mama-dom, student-dom, dumb-dom)
124. Except For Mondays (IUI, project 365, awesomeness)
125. Donor Eggs Journey (donor eggs, pregnancy)
126. The Calm After the Storm (life, nutrition, pregnancy)
127. Anna’s Joy (foster care, humor, life)
128. Back Into the Fire (infertility, foster care, adoption)
129. An Unexpected Life (adoption, infertility, future)
130. Determined to Have Joy (encouragement, life, infertility)
131. Oven Seeking Bun (pcos, ttc#1, follistim)
132. Lily in the Valley (infertility, marriage, stepparenting)
133. Room For More 9private domestic adoption)
134. Just For You (parenting after infertility)
135. Our Someday Family (pregnancy, second trimester, random)
136. The Long Journey (fet, secondary infertility, pregnancy)
137. The Subfertile Frugalista (ttc after loss, pcos, shopaholic)
138. The Gal Who Wants to be Anywhere But Where She Is (life after ttc)
139. The Consequences of Marriage (rawness of marriage)
140. The Road Worth Traveling (pregnancy, life, fitness)
141. oh sanity, wherefore art thou? (life, parenting after IF& loss, randomness)
142. Our Surrogacy Adventure (surrogacy, donor eggs, pcos)
143. Body Diaries by Lucy (pregnancy, PCOS, IVF)
144. Marla’z Austin Journey (unexplained IF, life, Chiari Malformation)
145. Last American Girl Standing (IVF, TWW, hope)
146. No Suzy Homemaker (family, babyloss, myself)
147. Hope is Ours (azoospermia, IVF, PCOS)
148. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Shop (news, books, music)
149. Twists of Fate (pregnancy after loss)
150. Baby Dreams (ttc #2, infertility, life)
151. Living With PCOS (pcos, ttc, secondary infertility)
152. IF In Big Sky Country (infertility, pregnancy, life)
153. No Oven For the Bun (first IVF, surrogacy, MRKH)
154. Life with Endometriosis and PCOS (pcos, endo, waiting)
155. You Call Me a Bitch Like It’s a Bad Thing (PGD, IVF, life)
156. Baby Hungry (multiple miscarriage, clomid, if)
157. Lifeslurper (DE, over 40, IVF)
158. Teddy Lifeslurper, ttc (humour, IVF, ttc)
159. Tales of My Follies (waiting, random thoughts, Femara/Follitism)
160. The Barreness’s Blog (parenting after infertility)
161. A Dallas Girl’s Journey to Mommyhood (IVF, infertility, life)
162. IVF Rollercoaster (IVF, college, retinoblastoma)
163. the list is now closed.  The March list will open on 2/28.

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is purple, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The January list is now closed.  The February list will open on the 30th or 31st.
  
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. We Got Hitched. We Bought the 4 Bedroom House. Now what??? (recuurent loss, IVF, life)
3. Dreaming of Quiet Places (emotional abuse recovery, ponderings, my cute dog)
4. Baby On Mind (TTC#1, IVF, unexplained)
5. Our Quest for Parenthood (IVF, PCOS, military)
6. Can I Get Some Sugar with These Lemons? (infertility, endometriosis, FET)
7. Adventures of a Dam Engineer (adoption, infertility)
8. MoJo Working (IVF, marriage, pregnancy)
9. Trying to Get Knocked up by Another Man (DE-IVF, life, military)
10. Babymaking 101 (life after loss)
11. A + B, Waiting for C ( just beginning, clomid, distractions)
12. The Yerkes Life ~ Learning to Embrace God’s Plans (ivf, faith, family)
13. Infertility And Me (male factor infertility)
14. Not a Fertile Myrtle (male factor, pcos, endo)
15. A Long and Winding Road (infertility, faith, marriage)
16. All Aboard the Pity Boat (infertility, running, life)
17. All Grown Up (domestic infant adoption, waiting, random)
18. Getting There (adoption, infertility)
19. Raining Raining (ttc, marriage, fost/adopt)
20. Busted Plumbing (infertility, humor, awesomeness)
21. In G-d’s Hands (faith, PCOS, early pregnancy)
22. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (ttc after losses, books, cooking)
23. Our Journey, but Not Our Plan (IUI, FET, IVF)
24. Destined to be an Old Woman With No Regrets (motherhood, post-partum depression, life)
25. A Virtual Hobby Store and Coffee Shop (news, food, gardening)
26. Such A Good Egg (exercise endorphins, clomid, hope)
27. Wistfulgirl’s World (infertility, PCOS, faith)
28. The Subfertile Frugalista (TTC after loss, PCOS diet, frugal finds)
29. Hoping for Another Little One (ttc #2, ivf/icsi, family)
30. Lifeslurper (IVF, DE, 40+)
31. Teddy Lifeslurper, ttc (humour, IVF, ttc)
32. Return to Innocence (TTC, life after IF, IF)
33. Donor Eggs Journey (donor eggs, early pregnancy)
34. Circus Children (life, love, infertility)
35. The Egg Drop Post (infertility, adoption, spirituality)
36. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, weight loss)
37. Artificially Fertile Myrtle (ivf pregnancy, twins)
38. A Page In My Book (infertility grad, large family, special needs)
39. My Journey to Mommyhood (pcos, ttc, life)
40. Venting Vagina (IVF, ART, acupuncture)
41. Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo (barren, surrogacy, twins)
42. Parenthood for Me (adoption infertility coping)
43. Body Diaries by Lucy (pregnancy, PCOS, IVF)
44. Your Great Life (infertility, women, fertility coaching)
45. The Adventures of a Military Family of 8 (family, life, reviews/deals)
46. The Sun’ll Come Out Tomorrow (I Hope) (recurrent loss, marriage, hope)
47. Life Happens When You’re Making Other Plans (faith, family, IVF)
48. Our Little Family (infertility, resolution, emotions)
49. The Gal Who Wants to be Anywhere But Where She Is (life after ttc)
50. An Unexpected Life (infertility, adoption, hope)
51. Life with Endo and PCOS (pcos, endo, life)
52. Romancing The Stone (love, infertility, girl-power)
53. AnxiousMummy (secondary IF, ttc, loss)
54. Journey Through Infertility and TTC (infertility, pregnancy, baby)
55. Letters to My Unborn Child (baby, love, journey)
56. Blogging More (life, friendship, humor)
57. PandaBox33’s Blog (life, love, friendship)
58. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
59. The Journey Through Life… (TTC, IUI, life)
60. Oven Seeking Bun (pcos ttc#1 follistim)
61. Junebugs Musings (ttc, pcos, emotions)
62. Misadventures with Andi (frenchie-things, books, food)
63. Mama Bear (adoption, infertility, openness)
64. Sell Crazy Someplace Else (neuroses, weight loss, dIUIs)
65. Trying in NYC (5 wks pregnant, anxious, PCOS)
66. Alana-isms (secondary IF, family, teaching)
67. Adding To The Pack (iui, mfi, weightloss)
68. Not The Path I Chose (IVF, pregnant with twins, loss)
69. Salvageable (RPL, life, marriage)
70. Le Blog de Bazookah Joe, tiraillee entre deux poles (bipolar, life, emotions)
71. IF Crossroads (pregnancy, ivf, endo)
72. Growing Up a NJ Wife (kitchy, random, wife)
73. That’s My Answer (question of the day, fun, life)
74. Poor Lucky Me (humor, advice, life)
75. Praying for Another Miracle (TTC9yrs, TTC#3, faith)
76. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, ttc #3)
77. Maybe Momma Someday (infertility, faith, pcos)
78. You Must Take Your Chance (mom, poetry, searching)
79. Mindful Meandering (adoption, motherhood, post IF)
80. Cheryllookingforward (pregnancy after loss, friends, fears)
81. The Royal Report (embryo adoption, everyday life, nonsense)
82. Inconceivable! (ttc, infertility, family)
83. Are We There Yet (IVF overseas, fibroid removal, TTC break)
84. On Tap for Today (life, humor, boston)
85. Where the Wright Day Takes You (ttc naturally, infertility, jealousy)
86. My IVF Journey (infertility, pregnancy loss, IVF)
87. Once an Infertile (TTC, pareting after IF)
88. Ambivalent Womb (ivf, fet, hope)
89. Wheresmy2lines (repeat ivf’s, pcos, life)
90. Everyone Else But Me (ICSI, ectopic, positive thoughts)
91. CD1 Again (infertility, clomid, waiting)
92. Marla’z Austin Journey (unexplained if, chiari malformation)
93. A New Wheeler (parenting after IF, PCOS, life as a new mommy)
94. So much for simple and easy (ivf, infertility, life)
95. Raising Miles (parenting, baking, randomness)
96. No Lingerie Here… (pregnancy after loss, PCOS, everyday life)
97. Trying Again (infertility treatment coping)
98. Life Lessons 101 (eclectic, energetic, epiphanous)
99. The Desire Of My Heart (recurrent loss, depression, weight loss)
100. My Elusive Baby (infertility, loss, uncertainty)
101. Daria’s Blog (everyday observations, family life, humor)
102. One Pound Too Many (weight loss, health, exercise)
103. Hoping for a Baby (infertility, IVF, hope)
104. Fertility Wishes and BFP Dreams (diui, infertility, general rambling)
105. Creating HackSpawn (PCOS, TTC, life)
106. The Birds and The Bees (unexplained infertility, acupuncture, iui)
107. karlinda (open adoption, adoption process, veganism)
108. A Greater Yes (embryo adoption, infertiliy, pregnancy)
109. Peachykate (ivf, nutrition, eggs)
110. Wishing4One (IVF#4, infertility, Egypt)
111. The State That I Am In (infertility, IUI, randomness)
112. Infertili- T and A (IVF break, foster parenting, sass)
113. Confessions of an (Infertile) Shopaholic (infertility, PCOS, life)
114. Impatiently Waiting for a Baby (pgd, ivf, stress)
115. Three is a Magic Number (MFI, considering IVF w/ICSI)
116. Curiosity Quotient (leadership, books, photography)
117. The Pitter-Patter (TTC, mfi, varicocele)
118. All My Peccadilloes (loss, waiting to cycle, recovery)
119. Below Average Athlete (infertility, daily life, family)
120. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
121. Hey Baby, We’re Waiting! (ivf, endometriosis, infertility)
122. Cherish This Baby (hope, faith & babies)
123. RachieAnn.Com (wife, designer, student)
124. Words Moving with Images (images, words, passion)
125. Al/Right Already (infertility, traditional chinese medicine, art)
126. My Scarlet Baby (IUI, marathon, infertility)
127. My Journey with Endometriosis (endometriosis, pregnancy loss, infertility)
128. The Maniacal Mommy (mommyhood, marriage, midlife crises)
129. Fertility Foibles (infertility, humor, china)
130. Life in the White House (parenting, donor sperm, crafts)
131. Infertility Musings (wanting a baby, frustration, medical treatment)
132. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, life)
133. The Truth Is Out There (IUI, unexplained, ttc #1)
134. In Due Time (life, infertility, pcos)
135. No Oven For the Bun (gestational surrogacy, infertility, MRKH)
136. Fertility Chick (pcos, male infertility, diui)
137. In The Name of the Father (male infertility, azoospermia)
138. The Infertile Breeder (IVF, science geek, cranky veteran)
139. manda blogs about… (health, beauty, life)
140. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, IVF)
141. Write, Baby, Repeat (adoption, infertility, WAHM)
142. Adventures in Babymaking (IF, SU, TTC)
143. Just Want to be a Mom (pregnancy, ivf, life)
144. Cyster A.C.T. (life, pcos, depression recovery)
145. Amber on the Run (running, weight loss, exercise)
146. Gracieinbrooklyn (infertility, acupuncture, random musings)
147. Infertility is the New Black (infertility, emotions, sensitivity)
148. Adventures in Glass (twin pregnancy after IVF, humor, life)
149. Semi-fertile (RPL, grief, life)
150. Mission: Motherhood (life after loss, infertility, random)
151. Exploring Chaos (baby, changes, family)
152. Endo-A-Go-Go (donor egg, fet)
153. Baby OCD (male factor, ivf, iui)
154. Shannon’s World (relationships, work assignments, random thoughts)
155. Melissa’s Thoughts and Realizations (ttc, mfi, hypothyroid)
156. Being Jamielynn (infertility, ivf, randomness)
157. The Journey to Baby Us (life, infertility, feelings)
158. Bionic Mamas (lesbian, ttc, peeing)
159. From IF to When (infertility, endo, life)
160. A Hope and A Wish For A Gift From A Petri Dish (ivf, infertility, pcos)
161. A Space of My Own (baby, ttc #2, life)
162. Twice As Nice (ivf, twins, sahm)
163. Wanna Be Momma (coping with infertility)
164. The (In)fertility Diaries (trying to conceive, pregnancy loss)
165. SAHM Minus the Mom (ttc, humor, life)
166. The Road to Happily Ever After (infertility, re, husband)
167. My Basic World (infertility, miscarriage, IUI)
168. Except for Mondays (project 365, infertility)
169. His & Her Infertility (pcos, adoption, azoo)
170. The January list is now closed.  The February list will open on the 30th or 31st.

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is red, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is now closed for December.  A new one will open for January on 12/31/09.
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
3. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, life)
4. Salvageable (TTC, recurrent miscarriage, life)
5. Banking On It (diui #6, infertility, tww)
6. Dreaming of Quiet Places (emotional abuse recovery, ponderings, my cute dog)
7. Into The Light Again (infertility, hobbies, marriage)
8. Don’t Scare Easy (hysterectomy, cat, reflection)
9. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (TTC after losses, cooking, Christmas)
10. Hubby, baby and me…would make 3 (early pregnancy, PCOS, life)
11. Sell Crazy Someplace Else (diui, weight loss, food)
12. Elana’s Musings (twins, parenting, randomness)
13. A + B, Waiting for C (just beginning, clomid, distractions)
14. Ten Times Crazier (twins, husband, TTC)
15. Ambivalent Womb (MFI, IVF, FET)
16. My Walking Path (nature, wildlife, greenliving)
17. Littlestomaks (toddler nutrition, expert advice, recipes)
18. Hurry Up and Wait (infertility, marriage, pets)
19. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, ttc)
20. Curiosity Quotient (photography, business, books)
21. Baby On Mind (ttc#1, IVF, unexplained)
22. Communique (life, infertility, ivf)
23. Trying for a Baby (TTC, endometriosis, laparoscopy)
24. AnxiousMummy (grief, ttc, me)
25. Can I Get Some Sugar with These Lemons? (endometriosis, infertility, IVF)
26. Just Jennifer (parenting, reviews, life)
27. Our Little Family (infertility, adoption, family)
28. PandaBox33’s Blog (life, family, love)
29. Le Blog de Bazookah Joe, tiraillee entre deux poles (bipolar, life, emotions)
30. Where the Wright Day Takes You (infertility, clomid, anniversary)
31. On Tap for Today (life, humor, Boston)
32. Playgroup Material (infertility, life, random)
33. Return to Innocence (TTC #2, IF, life)
34. A Journey of Hope – Cesta Naděje (IVF abroad, infertility)
35. Our Someday Family (MFI, treatments, random)
36. The Mis- Adventures of a Modern Day Farmer’s Wife (farming, infertility, PCOS)
37. Getting There (adoption, life, infertility)
38. On Blogging Well (blogging, marketing, writing)
39. Fading Ad Blog (fading ads, HIV/AIDS issues, same-sex marriage)
40. Our Journey, but Not Our Plan… (fet, waiting, acupuncture)
41. Alana-isms (secondary infertility, family, teaching)
42. We got hitched. We bought the 4 bedroom house. Now what??? (IVF, recurrent loss, randomness)
43. My journey with Endometriosis (infant loss, IVF, endometriosis)
44. MoJo Working (IVF, marriage, infertility)
45. Wistfulgirl’s World (infertility, PCOS, failed adoption)
46. Hoping For Another Little One (open adoption vs. IVF #3, TTC #2, family ramblings)
47. The Desire Of My Heart (miscarriage, depression, early pregnancy)
48. Just Wishing (parenting, life, oldness)
49. In Due Time (life, infertility, pcos)
50. Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo (surrogacy, 40+, twins)
51. Your Great Life (fertility, women, self-belief)
52. IF Crossroads (early pregnancy, IVF, endo)
53. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
54. IF in Big Sky Country (ttc, infertility, life)
55. Needs New Batteries (kids, birth, humor)
56. The Road Worth Traveling (health, family, early pregnancy)
57. My Walking Path (nature, poetry, greenliving)
58. Blogging MoRe (life, friendship, humor)
59. Strawberry Fields Forever (sahm, islam, marriage)
60. Drive Fast.  Take Chances (MFI, treatments, break)
61. Trying to Get Knocked up by Another Man (ivf, military, DE)
62. Raising Miles (baking, winemaking, babyraising)
63. Baby-log (baby, toddler, parents)
64. Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo (surrogacy, twins, 40+)
65. Enchilada Sunrise (knitting, bipolar, life)
66. The Yerkes Life~Learning to Embrace God’s Plans (ivf, faith, family)
67. Lifeslurper (donor, over 40, infertility)
68. Teddy Lifeslurper, ttc (ART, IVF, humour)
69. Skrambled (donor eggs, infertility, life)
70. Mindful Meandering (rpl, ivf, adoption)
71. Such A Good Egg (optimism, infertility, wellness)
72. Venting Vagina (IVF, omglolwtf, acupuncture)
73. Inconceivable! (ttc, infertility, family)
74. Romancing the Stone (newlywed, ivf, happiness)
75. RantouRage (NYC, catering, gay politics)
76. Write, Baby, Repeat (adoption, infertility, writing)
77. Parenthood for Me (adoption, infertility, motherhood)
78. The Sun’ll Come Out, Tomorrow (I Hope) (marriage, recurrent miscarriage, hope)
79. Trying in NYC w/PCOS (pcos, iui, frustration)
80. Wait, What? (unexplained-IF, wellness, pop-culture)
81. A Greater Yes (infertility, embryo adoption)
82. Learning through the IF Journey (early pregnancy, PCOS, faith)
83. The Pitter-Patter (ttc, mfi, (in)sanity)
84. Inconceivable?! (NOA, moving-forward, d-IUI)
85. Peanut Noodle (recurrent loss, IVF, considering donor egg)
86. Fertility Foibles (infertility, adoption, humor)
87. B is for Brown (ivf, ttc after a loss, optimism)
88. Melissa’s Thoughts and Realizations (iui, grad school, mfi)
89. That’s My Answer (question of the day, life, fun)
90. All My Peccadilloes (IVF, pregnancy, uncertainty)
91. One Little Pink Line Short of Sheer Bliss (ectopic, iui, mfi)
92. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, IVF)
93. Mom Someday (ttc, PCOS, weight loss)
94. The Impatient Optimist (infertility, PCOS, pregnancy)
95. No Lingerie Here… (pregnancy after loss, family, life)
96. My Journey to Conceive with PCOS (infertility, pcos, ttc)
97. Mission: Motherhood (iui, random, infertility)
98. Infertility And Me (male factor infertility)
99. The Infertile Mind (humor, irony, infertility)
100. Mister IVF (male factor, IVF)
101. A Page In My Book (large family, special needs, premature kids)
102. The Dinoia Family (kids, moving, overseas)
103. Shannon’s World (relationships, random thoughts, work assignments)
104. Baby Wanted (adoption, pcos, miscarriage)
105. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, life)
106. Exploring Chaos (pregnancy, family, life)
107. Journey Through Infertility and TTC (infertility, pregnancy, family)
108. Letters to My Unconceived Child (baby, pregnancy, love)
109. Endo-A-Go-Go (IVF, donor eggs, endometriosis)
110. Daria’s Blog (observations, life, family)
111. The Egg Drop Post (infertility, adoption, mindfulness)
112. Manda Blogs About… (reviews, giveaways, life)
113. The Adventures of a Military Family of 8 (family, craziness, life)
114. Keeping Our Fingers Crossed (ivf, pregnancy, life)
115. Life Happens When You’re Making Other Plans (faith, family, IVF)
116. Adventures in Glass (pregnant with twins after IVF/PGD, life)
117. Once an Infertile (infertility, TTC#2, parenting after IF)
118. Three is a Magic Number (MFI,  TTC, life)
119. End.ometriosis (endometriosis, relationships, life)
120. Being Jamielynn (infertility, ivf, randomness)
121. Conception Deception (mfi, ivf, depression)
122. offmymind.but from my heart (adoption, infertility, openness)
123. An Unexpected Life (infertility, adoption, hope)
124. The Electronic Replicant (books, geek, meme)
125. Sister Village (growth, self-discovery, mentoring)
126. Raining Raining (fost/adopt, marriage, fertility)
127. Ruminations (parenting after IF, life, random)
128. Diary of a Stork Stalker (5 ivfs, newly pregnant)
129. Impatiently Waiting for a Baby (ivf, frustration, PGD)
130. I’m a Smart One (surrogacy, infertility, parenting after infertility)
131. The Royal Report (infertility, adoption, nonsense)
132. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, life)
133. From IF to When (infertility, iui, life)
134. The list is now closed for December.  A new one will open for January on 12/31/09.

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is red, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

NaBloPoMo and IComLeavWe have joined together this month.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

• The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
• Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: November’s list is closed.  The December list will open around 11/29.
  
• Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
• Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
• I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
• Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
• The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.

1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
2. The Unfair Struggle (mfi, speedskating, nanowrimo)
3. Elana’s Musings (twins, parenting, randomness)
4. No, I’m Not Pregnant, Just Fat (pcos, mfi, stress)
5. My Bumpy Journey (waiting, IF, life)
6. Production Not Reproduction (transracial open adoption)
7. Babymaking 101 (trying, partial mole)
8. Trying to Get Knocked up by Another Man (ivf, military, life)
9. Lifeslurper (IVF, DE, 40+)
10. Teddy Lifeslurper, ttc (humour, IVF, ttc)
11. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (ttc after losses, books, cooking)
12. Where the Green Grass Grows (infertility, family, foster care adoption)
13. Banking On It (diui #5, infertility, tww)
14. Mindful Meandering (adoption after IVF)
15. Circus Children (life, love, ivf)
16. Communique (life, infertility, ivf)
17. Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo (parenting twins, surrogacy)
18. IF Crossroads (IVF, endo, waiting)
19. End.ometriosis (endometriosis, infertility, children)
20. Wishing4One (ivf, craziness, egypt)
21. All Grown Up (domestic infant adoption, waiting, random)
22. Into The Light Again (marriage, hobbies, infertility)
23. Exploring Chaos (pregnancy, life, family)
24. Life Happens While You’re Making Other Plans (IVF, faith, family)
25. Wait, What? (IF, emotions, life)
26. From IF to When (infertility, IUI, life)
27. Hope in Virginia (pregnancy after IVF)
28. Dancin In the Rain (infertility, iui, faith)
29. Raining Raining (marriage, (in)fertility, life)
30. Our Little Family (infertility, adoption, family)
31. PCOS SOS (infertility, pcos, randomness)
32. Inconceivable! (ttc, infertility, family)
33. Once an Infertile (parenting after IF, TTC #2, life)
34. The Mis-Adventures of A Modern Day Farmer’s Wife (infertility on a farm)
35. So much for simple and easy (ivf, infertility, life)
36. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, adoptive parenting)
37. Can I Get Some Sugar with These Lemons? (endo, infertility, IVF)
38. Body Diaries by Lucy (pregnancy, PCOS, IF)
39. Everyone Else But Me (ectopic, future cycle, emotions)
40. CD1 Again (infertility, ovulation, sadness)
41. IVF You! (ivf,cysts,waiting)
42. In Due Time (life, infertility, pcos)
43. Life by the Day (infertility, ivf, life)
44. Drive Fast. Take Chances. (mfi, diui, city life)
45. Getting There (infertility, adoption, life)
46. Sell Crazy Someplace Else (diui, weight loss, life)
47. Our Journey, but Not Our Plan… (FET, TTC, LAP)
48. Infertili- T & A (IVF, life, sass)
49. MoJo Working (marriage difficulties, infertility)
50. Road Blocks and Roller Coasters (parenting after IF, pregnancy)
51. A Greater Yes (infertility, embryo adoption)
52. A Baby 4 Al? (unexplained infertility, random, life)
53. Our Someday Family (MFI, testing, plan)
54. Waiting on baby Paramore (foster parents, adoption, biological children)
55. Looking for my Keys (infertility, special needs parenting, life)
56. Dreaming of Quiet Places (emotional abuse recovery, uncertain family-building future, my cute dog)
57. The Yerkes Life: Learning to Embrace G-d’s Plans (ivf, life, faith)
58. One Little Pink Line Short of Sheer Bliss (miscarriage, iui, ttc)
59. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
60. Return to Innocence (PTSD from IF, PPD, life)
61. Three is a Magic Number (in the beginning, male factor, life)
62. We got hitched. We bought the 4 bedroom house. Now what???(miscarriage infertility randomness)
63. Fertility Foibles (infertility, adoption, humor)
64. Wistfulgirl’s World (infertility, adoption, random)
65. Infertility and Me! (failed IVF, NHS clinics, TTC)
66. Got Love, Been Married, Now Where the Hell’s the Baby Carriage (pcos, mthfr, military)
67. Oven Seeking Bun (pcos, ttc#1, follistim)
68. Poor Lucky Me (humor, advice, life)
69. Parenthoodforme (adoption, infertility, coping)
70. Trying Again (infertility, hope, treatment)
71. Infertility Instability (PCOS, farming, family)
72. Romancing the Stone (ivf, newlywed, love)
73. The Conceivable Future (RPL, infertility, IVF)
74. (In)Fertile Myrtle (pregnancy, IVF, infertility issues)
75. Where the Wright Day Takes You (infertility, ttc naturally until $$ improves)
76. In G-d’s Hands (infertility, pcos, faith)
77. Searching for Freelance Success (writing, freelancing, publishing)
78. The Desire Of My Heart (miscarriage, depression, weight loss)
79. A + B, Waiting for C (just beginning, clomid, distractions)
80. Junebug’s Musings (infertility, weight, travel)
81. Donor Eggs Journey (donor eggs, IVF, Thailand)
82. Marla’z Austin Journey (unexplained IF, TTC, life)
83. IF You Only Knew (life, endometriosis, depression)
84. Ambivalent Womb (male factor, hope)
85. Melissa’s Life As She Knows It (infertility, ttc #1, clomid)
86. The Sun’ll Come Out, Tomorrow (I Hope) (miscarriage, TTC, marriage)
87. Are We There Yet (IVF, fibroids, Norway)
88. Nine Months (parenting, miscarriage, weight loss)
89. Wheresmy2lines (donor eggs, pcos, life)
90. Hoping For Another Little One (IVF, adoption, randomness)
91. My Stories (infertility, first IUI, life)
92. Beautifully Irrational (infertility, pcos, life)
93. An Infertile Blog (infertility, miscarriage, PCOS)
94. Infertility Ugh (infertility, marriage, relationships)
95. The Closet Infertile (infertility, IUI, planning for IVF)
96. Waiting for Sunflower (pregnancy, infertility, life)
97. Steps to Baby (infertility, decisions, life)
98. Infertility and Me (male factor infertility)
99. Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (infertility, POF, Hashimoto’s)
100. My So-Called Life (childfree after infertility)
101. Sprogblogger (infertility, donor egg, food)
102. karlinda (open adoption, adoption process, veganism)
103. Hoping for a Baby (infertility, IUI/IVF, random thoughts)
104. Creative Joy stillbirth, faith, life
105. Inconceivable?! (moving forward, noa, d-iui)
106. All My Pecadilloes (IVF, MFI, Klinefelters)
107. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, life)
108. Slice of Pie (IVF, cooking, travel)
109. Hopes and Dreams for Us (endometriosis, randomness, weightloss)
110. Lullaby and Goodnight (baby, family, shopping)
111. Staying Focused (knitting, life, family)
112. Simple Sweet Inspiration (parenting, crafting, laughing)
113. Monique Renae’s Blogging More (life, humor, friendship)
114. Johannah the Smite Priest (world of warcraft, games, PC)
115. MetaMegan (parenting, food, humor)
116. Twenty-Four Seven {Auntie} (aunt, children, nanny)
117. Marketing Latinos (socmed, latinism, marketing)
118. Word Grrls (writing, creativity, arts)
119. Kel (photography, ADD, familylife)
120. We Are Made of Dreams and Bones (jewish, college, crafts)
121. Laurel Green (art, crafts, fun)
122. Rammi.glomp.me (personal, rants, randomness)
123. Mosker (life, home ownership, cooking)
124. strawberry fields forever (kids, relationship, everyday)
125. Misadventures with Andi (frenchie, food, movies)
126. drawntocatholicism (comic catholic diary)
127. The Purple Corner of Reality (home, crafts, books)
128. Presently DeMo (single life, learning something new)
129. Fading Ad Blog (fading ads, same-sex marriage, LGBTQ equality)
130. Dena’s Recipe Exchange (food, recipes, locavorism)
131. Geek With Kids (geek, father, family)
132. self respect of a nation (mythology, art, medicine)
133. Tracy’s Topics (dzp, life, conversations)
134. Forbidden Planet (short personal rambles)
135. Digital-Damita.Net (female, housewife, student)
136. Train Star (traveling by train)
137. Journey Through Infertility and TTC (infertility, TTC, baby)
138. Letters to My Unconceived Child (baby, infertility, love)
139. PandaBox33’s Blog (friendship, family, love)
140. Le Blog de Bazookah Joe: Tiraillee entre deux poles (bipolar, life, work)
141. On Tap for Today (life, humor, boston)
142. Tripletly Blessed (triplets, attachment parenting, jewish)
143. What Does Mike Think? (catholic, geek, pro-life)
144. PhD in Parenting (parenting, feminism, breastfeeding)
145. Lake Stitcher (stitching, family, music)
146. Inspiration from a Creative Mother (sons, activities, art)
147. Cynical Optimism (books, movies, life)
148. Maremagnum (pictures, travels, memes)
149. Pennies in a Jar (academia, books, life)
150. Welcome to my life (life, family, humor)
151. Utter Beginner (comics, religion, illustration)
152. zelda pinwheels flying circus (witty, sarcastic, single)
153. Just Jennifer (parenting, mom time, games)
154. The Secret Life of Sass and Lex (infertility, life, foster care)
155. One Tough vonCookie (grad school, poetry, life)
156. Just Because My Pickle Talks Does Not Mean I Am an Idiot (Asperger’s Syndrome, humor, children)
157. Crazy Runs Deep (infertility, conceiving, shock)
158. Curiosity Quotient (photography, business, books)
159. Flooded Lizard Kingdom (life, parenting, miscellany)
160. I Never Thought it Made Sense Anyway (infertility, miscarriage, moving forward)
161. Christian Momma (my two children)
162. Tiny Blessings (frugal, faith, crafts)
163. Being Jamie Lynn (infertility, emotions, ramblings)
164. You Must Take Your Chance (mid-life, poetry, hilarities)
165. These Days (kids, life, childhood abuse)
166. It’s called a varicowhat? (iui#2, mfi, life)
167. On Blogging Well (blogging, marketing, writing)
168. Rogozinski Clan (kids, parenting, renovations)
169. Wired For Noise (parenting, politics, planet)
170. My Walking Path (nature, poetry, green)
171. The Electronic Replicant (books, memes, random)
172. Littlestomaks (toddler, nutrition, recipes)
173. Yarn Yarns (yarn, knitting, fiber)
174. Visual Arts Junction (writing, photography, publishing)
175. Truth Will Bend (life, love, questions)
176. Ruminations (parenting, life, random)
177. Confessions of an (Infertile) Shopaholic (infertility, PCOS, life)
178. Last American Girl Standing (TWW emotions, honesty)
179. Shannon’s World (causes, relationships, skin care)
180. Tripletly Blessed (triplets, attachment parenting, jewish)
181. Cats With Passports (ivf, immune issues, infertility)
182. No Lingerie Here… (pregnancy after m/c, PCOS, family)
183. My IVF Journey (ivf, infertility, miscarriage)
184. A Tale of 2 Monkeys (geek, baking, photography)
185. So much for simple and easy (life, infertility, work)
186. Opi’s Ramblings (life day zero)
187. Write, Baby, Repeat (adoption, infertility, writing)
188. My Little Drummer Boys (IVF twins, parenting, daily life)
189. Conception Deception (MFI, IVF, IVF failure)
190. offmymind.but from my heart (adoption, infertility, openess)
191. Enchilada Sunrise (knitting, bipolar disorder)
192. This is Worthwhile (sahm, life, self)
193. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, life, ttc #3)
194. Amelia Sprout (life, parenting, weight)
195. YourGreatLife (fertility coaching, self-belief, women)
196. November’s list is closed.  The December list will open around 11/29.

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is cranberry, the next month it will be red, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

Looking for the comment section? It has been closed on this post. Use the form in the directions to add yourself to the list.